TLDR: meditate, go into nature, reflect to find your natural self. Let that shine through and win.

Firstly, we all know girls like confidence. But what is confidence? I think it's an ability to be safe and secure in yourself while knowing that everything will be ok. The dictionary says something like 'a surety in the good outcome of ones actions'. Which is roughly the same thing.

Now, being in your head is basically the opposite of a surety of ones actions and that everything will work out ok. It's what you do when you are anxious and unsure. Analysis, is needed when one needs to take careful steps. Caution and confidence are not closely related.

This is why girls pick up on cautiousness and 'being in your head'. It suggests underconfidence, not the panty wetting caution to the wind guy that gets a girls heart racing.

So, what to do about this? Well the typical advice of 'just be yourself' gets a lot of flack, and for good reason, it is limp and aimless. But it does have merit.

It could be phrased as 'let yourself shine through'. And I know that might sound weird for guys but hear this out. Yourself is a natural way of being that encompasses joy, spontaneity, and a surety that things will be ok, looping back to our confidence here. This state is of course more attractive to women and of course you are in this state when you pick up girls who seem out of your league or you're just 'on fire'.

So, 'being yourself' rephrased as let yourself shine through, means not analysing things and flowing from your centre of personality/being/whatever you want to call it.

So how do you find this state? For me this state can be found by spending some time in reflection, meditation and enjoying nature. You will notice in this state that an easy smile will spread across your face and you know that everything will be ok. It's a quiet but very present sense of confidence.

Get into this state more, bring it into your seduction and see your results improve dramatically.