Many women think it’s manipulative to learn pickup, they think that guys are learning to manipulate women in a way that is uncalled for. This thinking is as paper thin and false as the layer of makeup women paint their faces with.

Why do you think women put so much effort into their appearance that it can take over an hour for a girl to get ‘dolled up’?

She is attempting to manipulate high quality men so that they will feel sexually attracted to her. And although some women will say they do it for themselves, this is just a rationalization. Why the fuck would you care about how you look if it wasn’t to change people’s perspective of you? Women don’t walk around in public looking at a mirror the whole time (hopefully). But women do strut about making an impression on the people around them.

This isn’t women’s fault, it’s just how human culture works. But, when women convince themselves they don’t want to manipulate men, they’re just telling themselves a story that makes them feel elevated above their animal nature. No woman is above manipulating men to be attracted to them, nor is any man above manipulating women to be attracted to them (unless, of course, you’re gay).

Men usually manipulate women to find them attractive by pursuing fame and fortune (and yes, it can work, let’s not lie to ourselves, status is attractive). Interestingly, it’s not creepy when a celebrity (like Russel Brand) sleeps with hundreds of women, it’s only natural, and so women have no problem with it. Modern rappers like Future regularly brag about how much pussy they get, and yet, who comes to their concerts in droves? Women. But if a normal guy, without high status, tries to improve his dating life not through status, but through pickup advice, it’s considered creepy- why?

Because women have a limited perspective, they can’t truly emphasize with men’s dating issues, because they (like you), focus on their own problems.

Women have a lifetime of memories of guys being creepy and awkwardly persistent with them. What women don’t have are memories of guys being too nervous to make a move. She isn’t aware that for most men it’s difficult to be assertive enough to ask a girl out (because men who belong to that category don’t ask her out), from her perspective, those men are just asexual nice guys who want to be her friend.

Guys who are extremely aggressive stand out. Players stand out. When a guy sleeps with a woman and never talks to her again, she might feel used, and she’s going to remember that. And naturally, she’s going to associate pickup with those guys.

The audience for pickup is mostly made up of good people who have trouble asserting themselves with women and/or have trouble being comfortable with their sexuality around attractive women.

For a guy, the motivation to do pickup is like the motivation for wanting to go to the gym if you’re overweight. You have a deficiency in an important area of your life, and naturally, you want to improve it. Women see it as creepy because they think of the narcissistic guys that hurt their feelings when they think of pickup, not guys who have their own real insecurities about dating.

Women want to be picked up, if they didn’t, they’d remain abstinent. But they want to feel like it ‘just happened’ because it’s a copacetic, comforting narrative. Feel free to give women this illusion so they can live out that pleasant narrative. But don’t let a bullshit, irrational narrative make your decisions about what’s normal and what’s creepy.

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