You are everything that's wrong with your life

vengefully_yours · 2017-03-05T20:21:44+00:00

Additionally. Life does not reward hard work nor effort. Life rewards effectiveness and getting results. You can bust your ass all day doing meaningless shit and never go anywhere, put the effort and focus on shit that matters.

It's always your fault, even if you had nothing to do with it and you were not involved. Accept that fact. Why? Simple, because you will always be blamed for shit, even when you're not part of it. It's the flip side of this, the weak will always blame you. We don't play the blame game, rather we identify areas we can improve, build on, or exploit to our advantage in a focused effort to make our world better.

Who gives a rat fuck about what you're accused of by the weak? They do not matter. Fuck them.

thelandofdreams · 2017-03-05T22:06:46+00:00

Whether or not shit is ACTUALLY your fault, your attitude should always be: "What can I do to fix it."

refusewool · 2017-03-05T21:04:42+00:00

It's not your fault if you're short, bald, have some other genetic disadvantage or have been subject to many adverse situations outside of your control.

A better mantra would be "you are responsible for your response to everything."

Eg. Upset you're short? That's your fault. You should recognise you're short but not wallow in sadness about it. Instead, work on things within your control. Etc etc.

LivingL1fe · 2017-03-06T13:41:09+00:00

Are you ugly? All your fault. Got a tiny unit? Thats also all your fault.

thecajunone · 2017-03-05T21:50:58+00:00

Go to school if you're poor? Are you trying to put kids in severe student debt? Lol

JudgeDoom69 · 2017-03-06T02:12:28+00:00

Typo? It's all your fault.

Romersk · 2017-03-05T19:31:48+00:00

This. So much. I remember coming to terms with this a few years ago, after my ltr had ended and I felt like shit. Besides beating myself up for becoming a beta in my relationship and leading it to a slow and painful death. I realized that I was 100% responsible for everything going on in my life. Yes there are things that are out of your control, but you are 100% responsible for where you want to go and what you make of your situation. Was it a bitter pill to swallow? Yes, much like the Red pill. But it is freedom, and when you really internalize the fact that you are the master - you won't need external motivation. Because you are the captain, and if you dont take command of your ship, you will eventually go down with it.

arviester · 2017-03-06T04:28:53+00:00

My wife just told me that, "you brought this upon yourself and no one's to blame but yourself so don't pretend that you have nothing to do with it." and wants separation.

Your post spoke to me like I was talking to myself in front of a mirror. I am ever more motivated to seriously take control of my life and exert every effort to improve and move forward. Thank you man!

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T06:16:38+00:00

The red pill gives men the illusion that they have more control over their lives than they actually do.

Bowserhatessmash · 2017-03-06T09:50:14+00:00

What a lazily thought out piece of work. What about people who are born poor to drug addicts? What about people who are legitimately to tired to go the gym because they've been busting their ass at other things in life?

Its lazy because it reminds me of all of the crap I see on redpill. This lazy storybook pump ourselves up yea type of post that is looked at through the lens of a child that had first encountered them. It is your RESPONSIBILITY. Fault implies every thing that happens to you is a result of your action. Life is too chaotic and that sounds like someone who is on track to developing a god complex.

I really can't stand these easy talk down to people posts because they always amount to someone being really immature and saying things a second grader could come up with when presented with the same information. Its just another form of stammering with you saying that the world is in your grasp. It shows a true lack of understanding for how the world really works and shows how much you actually thought about it.

How about a message that is not only more simple but doesn't sound like a first grader's philosophy homework?

Express gratitude with what you have Take responsibility with where you are in life. Understand what is in and out of your control And work from there.

indivisibleremainder · 2017-03-06T06:29:22+00:00

mom died of cancer? dad commit suicide?

ITS YOUR FAULT TIMMY WHY ARE YOU SUCK A FUCK UP

Pepe_Prime · 2017-03-05T22:27:10+00:00

I needed this right now, thank you.

saargrin · 2017-03-06T07:31:05+00:00

This sounds like youre trying to convince yourself

Star_Signs · 2017-03-05T20:27:13+00:00

Personal accountability is so essential. I just need to take care not to take as an excuse to beat myself up over little things. I find myself being naturally biased towards being hypercritical of even small negative habits, which usually lowers my self esteem and leads to less positive change and less empowerment.

You are what you do. Your health is your fault. But you are also accountable for any positive things you do in your life. So don't forget to give equal praise for things you do well, and to aim for a healthy balance of critical self praise and critical self shamming.

gman992 · 2017-03-06T02:37:49+00:00

You should try being a therapist

creepyThrowawayP · 2017-03-05T21:09:06+00:00

What if you were born to a narcissistic mother who tried to destroy you before you were even born by destroying your personality, confidence and social skills.

greatslyfer · 2017-03-06T07:06:41+00:00

You should have said:

Are you skinny? Pick up the fork, and go lift.

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T12:23:50+00:00

Shit, this hits home really hard for me. I used to blame a lot of people and outside factors for being a general failure, but the first step to improve yourself is to take accountability for everything. Seriously, even if it is definitely not your fault that you are short, or that you were born poor or have a shitty disease. Remember this quote when the temptation to blame anything but yourself creeps into your mind: It may not be my fault, but it's my problem. Does wonders when applied consistently.

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T02:23:37+00:00

It's not either/or.

Poverty has a multitude of causes, some that can be fixed by the individual and some that is completely out of the individual's control.

If you blame yourself for every single thing that is wrong with your life, you're going to have a hard time trusting yourself to fix the problems you do have.

wendysNO1wcheese · 2017-03-06T06:39:03+00:00

Please don’t watch stand-ups to learn how to talk to people. We don’t need wanna-be comedians walking around. If you already aren’t funny, trying to be will make people despise you.

Also, going back to school isn’t always the answer. So the person should go into more debt? Should the person take less hours at his job while he goes to school? All these things are a little more intertwined and complicated than OP makes them out to be. The overall notion rings true though.

joeltrane · 2017-03-06T03:22:30+00:00

I was almost inspired by this until "sitting at home and blaming the world is the domain of women and beta faggots." Are women and 'beta-faggots' incapable of self-improvement? Why is it necessary to shit on other people while improving yourself?

Raikkonen716 · 2017-03-06T09:08:23+00:00

Many people (not to say, the vast majority) still don't understand that if you have a problem, you need to find a solution. Simple as it is.

People generally ackowledge they have a problem, but they don't try to solve it.

llmercll · 2017-03-06T10:29:58+00:00

Some people are really fucking stupid and never get it though. And so they lack the capacity to make the changes they need, or ego gets in the way and they never grow since they can't handle any form of shame. Often both occur together. I agree with you that the first step is taking responsibility.

I've been, however, leaning toward the philosophy that none of us really have control over anything. Our brains lead the way and play tricks on us, i.e., free will. There is no self, only a culmination of your unique DNA and how it interacts with the environment.

In the end some of us luck out because we're smarter/better looking/etc, and thus live a relatively happy life with needs being met. High quality DNA= high confidence = high reproductive rates, we know this from the sexual dynamics most red pillers have studied.

Some people have low quality DNA however (or a DNA mismatch for their culture/time), and so this leads to unfulfilling unhappy lives.

Consider yourself lucky. None of this is "you". You most likely have no soul. That doesn't mean you aren't a superior, human male, however. Everything is relative.

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T10:57:43+00:00

My dad passed on mental illnesses to me. Is it really my fault?

Mrbasie · 2017-03-06T13:18:24+00:00

Its all your fault until you are born in a village without electricity and good drinking portable water.. Sometimes some things aren't really your fault, your impression of it is

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T13:56:40+00:00

Confusing "fault" with "responsibility" or "burden", but otherwise nice post, good reminder, and great ending quote.

izgmoen · 2017-08-03T18:10:03+00:00

Fuck you....I needed to hear this.

butter_coffee · 2017-03-05T21:15:55+00:00

I love this. There are people who say "Everything is my fault" and become a victim or like some kind of matyr overwhelmed by their feefee's Then there is the option to say "Everything is my fault- so I can change it and stop whining about it"

Oberyn_Reed · 2017-03-05T21:57:58+00:00

The only thing in life that frustrates me is my infantile circumcision, and that's not my fault, nor can I do anything about it besides a lengthy restoration process.

The only reason it bothers me is because I can't blame myself for it.

CaptainJackSorrow · 2017-03-06T00:23:18+00:00

Once you grasp this concept, it's very liberating. You're no longer a helpless victim. This was probably my biggest takeaway from Black Phillip (RIP).

VinylGuy420 · 2017-03-06T03:16:46+00:00

I can relate to every bit of this. When I was younger (I'm 25 now) I used to blame everyone else, but it never got me anywhere. Now that I've busted my ass to become successful I've grown up and stop blaming everyone else, seeing all my issues a few years back were because of me. After realizing this it's been nothing but improvements because I see my errors and correct them.

Unfortunately it's like I've discovered a secret to success so whenever I try to coach people about this, I usually get negative responses. Whatever, no skin off my back.

iopq · 2017-03-06T04:57:35+00:00

I have real difficulty putting on muscle. I can hit the gym, eat a lot and gain weight, but little of it will be muscle.

I'm still trying, but it's hard to distinguish how much of my fail is due to inefficiency in how I train and how much is due to genetics.

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T08:43:29+00:00

No, it's not always your fault, but it's useful to think it is. Responisbility is a useful fiction that has an all too real effect on the way individuals act. No, it's not your fault. But innocence is a fact we can't afford to accept. We must delude ourselves into guilt and accept pain to (hopefully) grow into something else.

merkucjo · 2017-03-06T10:22:24+00:00

There is book by Louise hay about that

Need2LickMuff · 2017-03-06T10:47:18+00:00

This post, and TRP in a nutshell.

lookitsnicolas · 2017-03-06T16:04:08+00:00

Does anyone have advice for the tired after work thing. I've ran into this way too often. Does less of the netflix,video games and stuff provide more energy's or just more focus?

WhorehouseVet · 2017-03-06T18:54:23+00:00

If you delete your post, you're a fuckin' pussy.

AmericanHistoryAFBB · 2017-03-06T22:21:55+00:00

This is a good post. I can't believe those blue pill losers are actually linking it like it's some sort of rape post or something. Fuck them, this is a helpful post. Thank you! Never good to blame others for issues easily in your control.

laserdicks · 2017-03-06T02:28:34+00:00

It's not your fault because you caused it. It's your fault because you're the one who has to fix it.

victor_knight · 2017-03-06T05:51:33+00:00

"We fight to stay alive... but don't forget to live..." - Graham Ashe

fullyoptimized · 2017-03-06T06:16:36+00:00

I needed this kick in the ass today. Reddit & YouTube are pretty much the only places I ever get that.

pbgswd · 2017-03-06T09:28:55+00:00

I know what the red pill is. Now I just have to own my shit and get on with it.

lucystilldreams · 2017-03-06T21:13:06+00:00

I feel like making an app for hookers so they can check if their johns are subscribed to the red pill. . . Then they can laugh at you and walk away. I know none of you get laid unless you pay for it, and I know those girls wouldn't take you as a customer if they knew about this. . . Then again, you're all still living in mom's basement so maybe you deserve pity sex... what an ethical dilemma...

anabolic92 · 2017-03-05T21:37:33+00:00

Am I bald? It's not my fault, and a lot of things regarding women are bad if you are bald.

illuminuti · 2017-03-06T01:59:59+00:00

The Royal families throughout the world, which claimed the divine right the rule over the common people, based on their bloodline... the Rockefellers and Rothschilds... sure they control the creation of money itself...

But we have the power in numbers alone.

[deleted] · 2017-03-06T05:15:07+00:00

The spirit of this post is true. However, in some situations where you have to trust others to complete something that you have absolutely no way of doing yourself its not your fault.

Ive had important papers going missing in the mail (post officies fault), my father refusing to file paperwork by law he was supposed to, and broke gamma landlords entering my apartments illegally after Ive thrown out garbage legally that prior tenants have left behind. In the last case you cant sue them for anything as they have no money and now your being forced to move again.

Women and society (blue pill males) dont see it that way and even expect you to help them if they fuck up. So your straddled with triple the stress. When one of these situations occurs, if its serious enough, I always remind the accuser or person who caused the issue that by their logic other people dont exist. Since I am a man and its all my fault then I dont need them and they dont exist. Or, I am a man therefore I control weather patterns.

ShitsWithTheDoorOpen · 2017-03-05T20:45:28+00:00

Good. This is called taking radical accountability.

Unless you were born with some form of physical disability or mental retardation, everything that's currently wrong with your life is your fault.

Even this is your fault. Karmic debt. This realization is sobering. The next question most ask after this, is well then if its all my fault and all my choice, and I have to DECIDE whether I want to thrive or if I want to cope, then what is the value in thriving? Why SHOULD I, choose the hard way, or the high effort way?

To me its always come back to consciousness. Because no one but you has to live and experience your life. No one but you has to deal with the pain, with the struggle, with the crushing sense of hopelessness and alone-ness at times. And it could only be this way, in the spiritual sense. If that word makes you think jobless faggot communist hippies then substitute "character building". It could only be that way because only once you cut your attachment to anyone else, to any other figure of authority, any other support system, any other false sense of security, then can you actually stand on your own two feet as a man. This is the true beginning of your new life, as an adult, as a Man.

Title	You are everything that's wrong with your life
Author	WhorehouseVet
Upvotes	1036
Comments	149
Date	March 5, 2017 7:02 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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