You’ll never understand women until you reach abundance.

April 20, 2020

That one special girl, the one you can’t stop thinking about, the one you obsess over and haven’t even fucked...

You’re just one of the coals she has in the fire.

Her plates spin themselves.

Women naturally have abundance mentality, they have dick being thrown at them from every angle, every day, in all shapes and sizes.

You’ll pine for the girl that showed you the slightest bit of attention. She pines for the man who’s attention she cannot get.

Would you obsess over Stacy if Eva was available to fuck tonight? Would you care that Eva flaked if Claire was down to come over?

At the end of the day, you don’t give a shit about your Oneitis, you want to fuck her, that’s why your brain can’t get her out.

We’re men, we solve problems.

Wanting sex is a problem, your brain wants to solve that equation by any means possible. So if you have a single option, your mind will focus on that option to the point of obsession.

All that brain power for that one chick? Fuck no, divide that shit up and play the field, who cares about dropping a penny when you have a million dollars?

If you talked to even 1% of the girls you encountered in a day, you’d have plates spinning in less than 2 weeks.

There’s no excuse to have Oneitis, there are billions of women. If you’re not the one fucking them, it’ll be someone else, and it might as well be you.

Women be shopping, let’s hit the fucking mall.

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Title You’ll never understand women until you reach abundance.
Author Coolrubbings
Upvotes 805
Comments 157
Date April 20, 2020 9:25 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]RedJourney23148 points149 points  (14 children) | Copy Link

WAKE UP CALL. I'm way too invested in this girl im not even fucking.

[–]Coolrubbings66 points67 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

Remember, if she’s not getting dick from you, it’s somewhere else.

Don’t give your attention for free without getting what YOU want.

[–]nexther19 points20 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Now I know lots of you won’t agree with me here, but plenty of girls I know but don’t fuck (colleagues) were virgins up to around 24. Most of the girls I date, mate and plate... who are 18-19, are virgins & you can tell with how they behave during sex and they admit it.

Then there is the promiscuous ones... well...

p.s. even the guys they’ve been with (lead along) leave them cause they refuse to fuck.

[–]dumbkidaccount19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Virgin until 24? bruhhh u are delusional

[–]ZeusAlansDog14 points15 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

They're out there.

With any culture, there's ALWAYS a counterculture.

[–]aDrunkenWhaler2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Maybe 5 and 6's that believe themselves to be 8 and 9, or girls that want a ring on their finger before giving away their 'special gift'.

[–]SalporinRP0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

plenty of girls I know but don’t fuck (colleagues) were virgins up to around 24.

Not in any civilized part of the US lol

[–]42gauge0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

even the guys they’ve been with (lead along) leave them cause they refuse to fuck.

Well they didn't refuse you, did they? What do you think it was that made you different from everyone else in their lives, some of whom were likely alpha?

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

This isn't true, sexual activity is going down even for women. A 2018 study showed that Millennials and Gen Z are having less sex you can Google it. I have had 3 virgin girlfriends. The fact of the matter is it depends on the type of game you are running, your location, and the girls you attract.

[–]WB2E20 points21 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

This is extremely true.

If you're fucking good looking girls at bars that give you eye contact then you're fucking a lot of sluts.

If you're an attractive guy day gaming girls on the street that never look at you, there's a much better chance she won't be a whore.

[–]friendandadvisor5 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

A 2018 study showed that Millennials and Gen Z are bigger liars.

[–][deleted] 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

TRP lives in a bubble a lot of the time. There are lengthy blog posts by PUA's of basic girls where only social circle game works on them. These girls think hooking up is gross. Usually its upper middle class conservative White or Asian women. They have only had one or two long term boyfriends their entire life and if they sense you're a fuck boy they run. The only way you're gaming them is if they happen to be single and drunk.

I am in these social circles and it goes like this:

  1. No social media presence
  2. Strong cultural pressure to not date
  3. Academic focused (STEM job, not liberal arts)
  4. Wears little to no makeup
  5. Introverted
  6. Not hot only cute (max SMV of 6)

You can sense they are virgins and inexperienced with men.

[–][deleted] 12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Just work on yourself. Once you’ve reached a state of complete abundance mentality towards things that actually don’t even matter like plates and acquaintances life will change.

A hot plate starts drama just after you woke up? You just laugh about it and keep enjoying your marvelous life cause you have more energy to commit on useful things that actually do matter.

You treating her like that will also make her more wet than anything else which makes it a double win.

[–]Lurkingnopost295 points296 points  (49 children) | Copy Link

My father once told me when I was 16 that if I ever worried about losing a woman, I already have and to move on to another.

I couldnt follow his advice to save my life when I was 18 and fucking my brains out with my oneitis. She eventually cheated on me when I was 20 and it broke me.

To be honest though, I married my now wife of 17 years at 22, so there's that. But he still wasn't wrong.

[–]anoukdaae111 points112 points  (46 children) | Copy Link

Happy for you that you found a good woman.

[–]Lurkingnopost249 points250 points  (43 children) | Copy Link

It was pure fucking luck. I found the most patient woman on the planet. She has given me three children and stuck with me through poverty and now wealth. She is the only reason I have to claim being purple pill. I absolutely agree with everything the red pill calls for but I am completely at this women's mercy voluntarily. She has earned it.

[–]anoukdaae150 points151 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That's, honestly, really sweet. I'm genuinely happy for you and the happiness you've found with one another.

[–]SKRedPill75 points76 points  (19 children) | Copy Link

All this is good. But remember, a good woman should not be an excuse for not addressing your issues, she shouldn't become a reason for you to stop getting better just because nothing is compelling you to improve. Use what you have as a platform to create something more.

[–]Lurkingnopost53 points54 points  (18 children) | Copy Link

Very true, sir. I turned to my health lately. About six months ago I was 240lbs and 6 foot. I'm still 6 feet, but 198, hard as a nail. I decided to hit cross fit three times a week and stopped eating like a child. Wife won't stop #metooing me.

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[–]Lurkingnopost27 points28 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Let me give you a little lesson. When you get to my status, you dont give a shit what others think, because your strength and security comes from within. NO ONE is a drill sergeant to me.

[–]SKRedPill18 points19 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Apologies for being hasty to comment. I read your first stat at 240 lbs and commented right away, but somewhere missed the second number where you brought it down to 198 lbs. My bad. Sorry about that.

[–]rockyp320 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I think a normals Eight lifting routine would do much more than CrossFit tbh

[–]Lurkingnopost2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I know. I know. What I like about the cross fit I go to is my brother is there already (nice discount), but the guy who runs it in my town is a stand up guy and he lets me borrow equipment whenever I want.

[–]AriaRz220 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Eh, could you explain what you mean about your last sentence? Very curious to know.

[–]Lurkingnopost1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I was playing off of this bullshit #metoo movement. She randomly walks by, groping and rubbing.

[–]SpamFilterHatesMe5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That’s what happens when you’re blessed with father as a strong role model with sound advice

[–]throwlaca2 points3 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am completely at this women's mercy voluntarily. She has earned it

She's 39?

Oh man, I wish you luck.

[–]Lurkingnopost1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Thank you. I have been lucky so far.

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[–]oooKenshiooo2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Exactly. Quality women are a silent minority. You can find them, but they are incredibly rare, usually taken and since they rarely engage with men, they are on nobodies radar.

[–]8380atgmaildotcom-2 points-1 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

AWALT is paradoxically just a rule of thumb.

No it's not. Don't push around false information for feels sake

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[–]8380atgmaildotcom-1 points0 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

What may seem like "some outlier women" to you actually appears to the significant majority to a super chad.

A queen to you is a dumb slut to some guy better than you.

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[–]8380atgmaildotcom-2 points-1 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

ya you definitely have a long way to go before you swallow the pill

[–]Lurkingnopost5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Remember this, it's not that YOUR woman will divorce rape you, it's that she CAN. I would avoid marriage. Treat her as well as she treats you. Make her earn her place in your life.

If you start to get that push and language towards marriage, consider a prenup. It is the best shit test that a man can do for a woman. Her reaction to it will tell you everything.

At the very least, before you even consider anything like marriage or moving in together, purchase two hours of a divorce attorney's time and have him/her run you through all the dangers and realities of marriage and divorce in your state. Money well spent. I practice criminal defense myself, but have many divorce attorney colleagues and they have suggested this.

[–]oooKenshiooo4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I am 32 yo currently getting married to one of said quality women.

Best advice I can give you is to wait until you are about 30, because chances are, you simply lack perspective on what true quality is and you probably have not yet experienced how even a quality woman can change into a whore under the right/wrong circumstances.

Get some life experience first.

[–]aDrunkenWhaler0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

How old is the girl you are marrying?

[–]42gauge0 points1 point  (4 children) | Copy Link

I'm curious, how much of the red pill do/did you share with her?

[–]Lurkingnopost0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I have shown her some of the literature and in the process I have realized that she was based far before this material existed. She is the first one to say to me, whenever I need to hear it, "Man up and solve that". Usually this comes up when I am bitching about disrespectful clients.

[–]42gauge0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

Did you see any green flags early on in your relationship?
P.S. which industry are you in?

[–]Lurkingnopost0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm a licensed attorney and I run my own criminal defense firm.

The biggest green flag I saw was her actively seeking me out and getting my number (still not sure how) and called me up and asked me to take her out on a date. I loved that shit.

I realized that years later when we were talking about how we got together, she said with a smirk that she hunted me down and played the innocent fawn because she knew that I was a hunter. Fucking shocked me. I got played my friend. We went on one date and I proposed a week later. Married 17 years now.

[–]42gauge1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

What happened during that date that got you to propose in just one week?

[–]moannumber1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Men monkey branch and call it spinning plates

[–]RagingMayo3 points4 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Wow, that is actually pretty powerful advice. I will think of it next time I become too invested in a woman who I haven't had anything with yet.

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

You're incredibly lucky.

My dad is still a cuck and going on 80

[–]LotBuilder118 points119 points  (55 children) | Copy Link

The biggest eye opener and red pill was in college playing baseball for a SEC school. The athletic dorms had 250+ Chads in the same buildings. There were so many sluts coming and going and being passed between different guys and teams it was nuts. You saw freshman guys getting their HS girlfriend stolen. You are seeing girls cheating on their BF with his teammate. You are seeing girls that just get inside and wonder around until someone pays attention to them. By the second semester every guy is immune to these sluts. You are disgusted knowing they have fucked half the basketball team so you treat them with indifference. The more indifference you treated them with the harder they tried. The first night I got on campus I got jumped on by one of the hottest girls I’ve ever seen in my life. I was on top of the World for about two weeks when I realize she was such a whore that none of the veteran guys wanted to be seen with her so she was picking off the new guys.

Living in that environment for two years taught me a lot about abundance. Then after I was done playing I got a job working the door tonight club or I could’ve gotten a blowjob in the parking lot any night I wanted.

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[–]LotBuilder24 points25 points  (28 children) | Copy Link

For sure, the good news is that the vast majority of men can work they way into that 20% if they want to

[–]snuskbusken11 points12 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

Not how it works, statistically. Everyone can improve but only 20% can ever be the top 20%

[–]HornedBul10 points11 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

depends on how you look at it.

my interpretation is that the vast majority of men has the potential to be top 20%

another way to look at it is that most men can be at the top 20%, just not at the same time.

[–][deleted] 0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Picture what the top 20% looks like/does.

If everyone fit that profile, all those people would still be physically attractive, strong, have a decent income, etc. They would be a lot better off than if all that was missing.

In terms of social status/rank, yeah, that percentage stays constant, and there will always be a much stronger bias in women towards the ranking in and of itself, but the reality is that very few people manage to get out of their own way and improve themselves, so that's not going to happen.

If it somehow did happen, it's not like there's an objective "status-o-meter" with universally agreed upon rankings. If people were much closer to each other and the differences between top 20% and top 50% were to become harder to detect, you could more easily pass for either or depending on the situation.

[–]snuskbusken-1 points0 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The difference then would fall to genetic and other intrinsic factors, but yeah I see your point.

[–]pacjax-1 points0 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

if everyone improved there would be no 80/20 rule

[–]4ktx9 points10 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

These 20% men are not all chads.

[–]jamesbond051210 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I agree with you.

This group is very centered on Chad and not on the raw killer mentality.

There are plenty of ugly guys and ugly woman giving kids and having kids.

Sure, they don't get a flock of sluts or man at their disposal but they do intermingle with their little circles.

You DON'T have to be Chad to get laid. You DON'T have to be Chad to be successful in life.

You do on the other hand, have to work a little harder but those failures will only give you a more bitter look at life and that's what we all should strive for.

The bitter truth of trp plus the sweetness we decide to work for.

[–][deleted] 6 points7 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

I would say if you're an 8/10 male you are by definition Chad. To be a 10/10 you need to have fame. 9/10 would mean 6+ ft tall, money, 6 pack, etc. There are plenty of 5'7 - 5'10 Chads who don't have money or fame. The famous dating coaches and PUA's on Youtube are all 8/10's.

[–]jamesbond05125 points6 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

You should be writing posts on your notes about different field reports or experiences.

You have experienced more than many people that aren't enrolled in college plus those not playing sports in school.

[–]LotBuilder5 points6 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

I admit I am fairly new to the ways of reddit so I will try to figure out how to do that

[–]jamesbond05125 points6 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Figure out how the flairs works

Understand the terms, acronyms and subjects if you're fairly new to the sub

Get inspired by an experience and pick the right topic

Then share your experience based on that specific topic; You'll want to diverge into other territories but try to stay focused

After that, if your content is pretty neat, you'll get some feedback and hopefully motivation to keep writing some more

Hope to see more

[–]phibetared4 points5 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

ha. You just reminded me of a local high school girl that did the freshmen dorm i transfered into for 2nd semester of college. She had already done most of the guys in my new hallway, so she wanted me. I like the attention but was quickly told she had done all the other guys before I arrived. So one night alone in the parking lot she was grinding against me, making her move. I told her I'd do her if she paid me. (I was curious what would happen). She said no and was very ticked off. hahahaha

[–]LotBuilder5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

The rooms were set up in a pod of 4 with 2 people sharing a room so 8 guys total. There were several girls that created “Eskimo pods” by running through all 8.

[–]SalporinRP3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Spot on. I didn't play sports in college but was friends with guys on the basketball team through classes and pickup ball at the rec center so I would hang out in the athletic dorms and pre-game with them for parties and shit. I honestly think that unless you've witnessed it with your eyes you cannot even begin to comprehend the hoeing around college girls do. It was absolutely nuts. Girls literally fucking 2 or 3 guys in a single night.

And that was at a state school in the northeast. I cannot imagine one in the south. I visited a friend at Florida state during my sophomore year and it was essentially a week-long orgy bender.

[–]LotBuilder1 point2 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

It’s funny because the guys that ended up getting the most pussy were the redshirts, student managers and players friends. Athletes are very busy traveling and training while those guys could sit around giving those girls attention.

FSU, Ole Miss and ASU/UofA are the schools that are a level above in terms of debauchery. Their admissions are so low that it’s a dumping ground for really stupid rich kids. Basically a 4 year junior college.

[–]SalporinRP2 points3 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

FSU seemed like a fucking joke.

I visited for a full-week when my friend had classes and he just skipped the entire week. And then because he was skipping the entire week all of his roommates used it as an excuse to skip the entire week. There were darties at like noon on a Tuesday. My friend was friends with this sorority slut down there and we met up with her at some house party. My friend put his arm around me and said "This is my boy ____, he's visiting from out of town, let's show him a good time". And 2 minutes later she's leading me to a bathroom to give me a blowjob and do coke off her tits. That week there pretty much shattered any illusions I had left about women lol.

It was an unreal week but there's no shot I'd be able to go there for school.

And yeah from my experience the players themselves usually had a rotation of 2-3 girls they'd text at 2am to come over and fuck. The players put in zero effort to maintain the "relationship" because the girls realized the competition was so fierce and would put up with anything.

Thankfully being friends with the athletes got me laid by association despite me having pretty shit game back in college.

[–]LotBuilder1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

I had two friends visit from CA and we told all the girls they played for USC and one of them was going to be a top 3 round pick. This was in 1999 so everybody didn’t have cell phones. We completely lost him for like four days.

[–]SalporinRP2 points3 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

Ah the advantages of a world that wasn't constantly online. What a story.

That reminds me of an Argentine soccer coach that I had back when I was in late high school. He was in his late 20s in the late 90s and he told me he used to pick up chicks at clubs by saying he played soccer for Argentina lol.

[–]LotBuilder0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

You could make up all sorts of shit. I had buddy from summer ball with light blond hair and we told all the girls in the Cape that he was Paul Walkers brother. The girls never questioned it.

[–]Nihilisticmdphdstdnt0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

Yall have any ways to hack the game now?

[–]LotBuilder1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

They have more access to information than ever before so lying is tough... but being a fake celebrity is easier than ever too. Getting 600,000 followers or becoming YouTube or tick tok famous isn’t that hard with some effort.

[–]pacjax1 point2 points  (3 children) | Copy Link

every girl in that environment is on the cock carousel hardcore.

elsewhere its different

[–]LotBuilder0 points1 point  (2 children) | Copy Link

There are different stages in life but the newly separated 36 year old milf isn’t behaving that much differently than a college girl. She going to bang 8-10 guys in the first 6 months

[–]electricspresident0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

I absolutely love your initial comment. This is exactly the type of stories red pill first used to have a lot lying around. In my opinion this is the best form of awalt stories.

I am looking forward to some more. Although it's probably very hard to grt any more different variations of yours. But this sub could always use more insiders. Mainly because not many if any, of those college Chads hang around here, understandably.

But here's my strange question

Why the hell do these Chad's marry them Stacy's like they know, they have seen, they themselves have done 100s of Stacy's in their college dorms so why do they fall in love and marry , this plays out all the way amongst top NBA NFL...athletes

Now I'm sure some do it for the publicity but the way they talk about marriage and shit I'm not do sure.

I get the sense Most of them truly believe they are marrying their unicorn

[–]LotBuilder1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Everyone, deep down, feels like they are special and unique. For instance, in a classic 1977 study, 94 percent of professors rated themselves above average relative to their peers. That’s amongst professors... not the stupid general public. Every Chad thinks he is special and different and he thinks his Stacy is not like the other girls because she has lied about her past and his ego forced him to believe it.

I can’t fathom any reason why a pro athlete currently playing would be married.

[–]GoldenAxe_7t794 points95 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Having dick thrown at them is NOT abundance mentality to them ... dick means nothing to them .. time/commitment/relationship is what’s scarce for them at least from a high value men ...

[–]Bluetinfoilhat17 points18 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Even low value men have leverage over the average woman when it comes to serious commitment.

[–]AreOut19 points20 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I think it changed lately, because even average woman would rather be single these days than allow her friends to show up with "better" boyfriend than hers. Actually it's her ego that wouldn't allow that. And the change comes from the social media, earlier they wouldn't encounter other "happy" women so often but nowadays they are browsing social media and looking at all other women having a "good time" with their boyfriends. So they want same or better because after so many likes and comments from betas they are convinced they deserve it.

[–]RivenHalf25 points26 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Agree and disagree. Despite abundance women will very frequently also have One-Itis and Women's One-Itis is way stronger than men's because they do have those options. I've seen many examples of woman turning down men who had all their ducks in a row, fit, handsome, sought after, all because one man strongly had their interest at the time.

[–]bemore_2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Yeah beyond sexual strategy, the range of women aren't too different from men. Social conditioning and culture affect all. Most women are bluepill/beta. Men just have a chance because older guys guide younger guys. Older women basically let younger women figure things out for themselves hey

[–]4ktx19 points20 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Girls aren’t hard. Act extremely comfortable and she will follow suit. Don’t try to seduce right off the bat, they “sense” this.

[–]ariky1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

I feed them with my insecurities. Doing that shows that I am really comfortable. Eventually they understand that I don’t have insecurities indeed since I don’t hide them.

This shit works every single time 😄

[–]electricspresident0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

I understood how this would work with a girl you already know but say on a cold approach or some shit ?

[–][deleted] 15 points16 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Amen brother, I needed to hear this. Was starting to slip into oneitis but this reminded me, thank you!

[–]____Weabooo_V216 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

“Who cares about dropping a penny when you have a million dollars”. Shit that hit hard and has put this shit into perspective for me. Good post OP, more people need to read this

[–][deleted] 27 points28 points  (13 children) | Copy Link

spinning plates is exhausting and kind of a waste of time. Once you are talking to even 3-4 women, spending time with them, talking to them, setting up plans with them - I get bored with 2 let alone 3,4 or more.

[–]Coolrubbings11 points12 points  (12 children) | Copy Link

Exhausting? I’ve always found it fun to be honest, but I guess to each their own

It shouldn’t be tiring

[–][deleted] 29 points30 points  (11 children) | Copy Link

I just have so many better things to do. Making money, I'm learning new things, considering starting a side business, etc. I guess I don't mind dates as long as they are short (<1-2 hrs max) - but its the pipelining and also just like online dating, typing pu things to say. Maybe I have to go through 5-10 to convert 1 but I'm like, whoa too much energy and so little reward.

One guy on YouTube said this well - every relationship you've been in up until now is over. 99% of your relationships end poorly and you get nothing from them, they don't get interest, they pay no dividends, etc. Roosh V got 300-400 women and now, each of those 300+ are worth NOTHING. So many things in life pay dividends and pay as you build experience in - but women are constantly siphoning resources from you and only offer sex - and the sex is done the second your orgasm is over.

So yeah, I get exhausted from it. Then again. I'm in my 30s. I'm sure as a 20 year old I had much more energy for it.

[–]HellSpeed12 points13 points  (10 children) | Copy Link

Plates take work, no doubt about it. For me, it's about having as many qualified women in the pipeline as possible. Keeping that mindset of always being on the prowl is hard when you're being satisfied sexually. But I love having amazing sex and for me having a woman completely submit to me is intoxicating. Having a woman go from being cold and distant or luke warm with me to having her say things like "you can do anything you want to me" or ignoring their boyfriends calls when I'm with them, are some of the best times of my life and they make me feel alive.

Ego is a problem I have. I know.

Having a career and business ambition is a must but it's all about balance. Spending a few hours a week on grooming new prospects and a few nights a week with plates is all part of a healthy male lifestyle. I find when I am going through dry spells I can't concentrate properly on my ambitions. The reptilian brain in me will not stop screaming, "find someone to fuck!"

[–][deleted] 10 points11 points  (9 children) | Copy Link

There is a moral question here too.

I think trying to sleep with 100 women ruins the world. First off, let’s take the women. They have so much casual sex they become ruined for any future man, also they become jaded thinking men only want them for sex. Many porn stars commit suicide or use drugs because they feel so little self worth being ran through by more than a football team worth of men. We all will admit, if we had a daughter - we would not want her to have a body count of 100 dudes. There’s plenty of research that they can’t pair bond after too many.

Next the man. It doesn’t damage the man the same way- we can sleep with 100 girls, no problem bonding with the next. However, I do believe men begin to see women as tools to just get what they want. Actually, on this forum a guy said as much, he hit 200? Or whatever and he said they are just 3 holes with lots of opinions. This dehumanizing attitude and the attitude that I can just use people for what I want and then discard them is a very dangerous way to approach the world. We already have good reason to believe it damages women and to know that and extract pleasure from them and then toss them aside when done, that’s not a good way to approach the world.

Notice - I didn’t say spinning plates per se is wrong - I’m talking about an approach to how to relate with humanity. I’m talking about a mindset. It’s a dangerous one. Our best self approaches the world as a giver- and when you give a lot, you do receive. Contrary to popular belief, the same laws apply to business, relationships and the universe. But it’s hard to see this when we have a sex drive and there is a smoke show in front of us. I am a man like anyone of you and understand why we can drop everything for a unique sexually attractive woman... it’s biology. Yet the point is, if you let that appetite grow then it consumes you.

Good luck.

[–]bpdnpdNshittestsohmy1 point2 points  (5 children) | Copy Link

Mind linking to some of the research you've read demonstrating that they can't pair bond after too many? That sounds really interesting. Would love to read more about.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

There is research about divorce rates based upon previous number of sexual partners. Women with 0 or 1 almost never divorce while people with 20+ have a sky rocketing divorce rate. I am driving so can share later but it’s easy to google this

[–]bpdnpdNshittestsohmy0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

I guess I’ll have to google it like you suggest, but just based on that type of evidence you mentioned, I wouldn’t say that’s evidence that having a high number of sexual partners causes women to be unable to pair bond. It’s possible that there is an inability to pair bond from the beginning that causes a high number of sex partners and also divorce.

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oh - I see - you're coming in with the doubter frame.

Yeah - I work in medicine - so I understand the ability to argue regardless of evidence. There's evidence that 99% of people agree with that people create arguments against. However, not only those studies show that - many women's stories on the TRP show that. TRP is the least science based yet the most informative set of information we have on women. Hundreds of thousands of men approaching and saying what works and doesn't work apparently is more accurate than the best scientific study... which doesn't surprise me.

Science is limited in this area. But the evidence is substantial that this is true. Search yourself. But since you search already with doubts you probably will believe what you already do.

[–]bpdnpdNshittestsohmy0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

oh - I see - you're coming in with the doubter frame.

Yeah - I work in medicine - so I understand the ability to argue >regardless of evidence.

I am not doubting the idea that a large number of sexual partners may compromise a woman's ability to pair bond in the future, that may very well be true, I am doubting the validity of the evidence you cited as demonstrating it. My question and thoughts pertained to the research you cited. I would be interested to read the women's stories you mentioned.

Hundreds of thousands of men approaching and saying what >works and doesn't work apparently is more accurate than the best >scientific study... which doesn't surprise me.

That doesn't surprise me either. Even the most rigorous of scientific studies needs to be replicated to see if the results weren't just a fluke. Also, the method through which game was produced was science. Each time a man tried something new when talking to a girl, that was like a mini-experiment he performed. Reporting back the results online was like publishing a journal article for the rest of the men (scientists) on the forum to peer review, and if intrigued, to go out and replicate, report back, rinse, repeat.

Systematically changing the variables, sharing results, re-testing and building knowledge, that is essentially science, the science just wasn't performed within the academic system. Red Pill Theory is just like any scientific theory in that it was based on an earlier subset of experiments testing thematically related hypotheses - the hypotheses tested to develop game. We have progressed from testing hypotheses on how to seduce women to explaining why the results from all of the hypothesis tests are what they are. This is science.

[–]bemore_1 point2 points  (1 child) | Copy Link

Shouldn't really attach morality to sex. "this is good, that's bad". Please only speak from experience

Humans are already selfish as fuck. Westernized humans are the ultimate selfish. That's why we are the way we are today, they want what they want not cos it makes the world better or worse but because they want it

[–]Lefanteriorascencion0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Blame feminism brother. It's an necessary evil at this point. All is fair in love and war.

[–]DrDerpex13 points14 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

There is difference between 2/10 available to fuck tonight and pursuing 9/10 to smash. Guys find it better to jack of to porn then get in trouble fucking a 2/10 landwhale.

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[–]Metroid_Zard12 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Now this is a post I can get behind. To be clear, 1% of zero is still 0.

[–]arcwhy7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Good way to look at it. Nice wrote up!

[–]dkod0668 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Sharp and concise. Good stuff OP

[–]BitsAndBobs30412 points13 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Would you obsess over Stacy if Eva was available to fuck tonight? Would you care that Eva flaked if Claire was down to come over?

I see you've never met a deepthroat no-teeth unicorn

[–]RagingMayo5 points6 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Man this post really hits home. Before the quarantine I had a girl who I felt was very invested in me for some reason. We had a date before and were about to get to the second, but I wanted to keep it all cool. (I guess that got her to chase me even more.)

Then corona hits and I can't see her again. I send her a message every few days about me moving to another city (not too far away) and that I was painting the walls, etc etc. I guess this was just an attempt of me to maintain some sort of interest in her. Meanwhile I started thinking that I really wanted to fuck this girl. And in my desperation my male mind did exactly as you said. It tried to "solve" this problem by sending her some messages, by thinking of ways to somehow maintain that option of getting pussy.

Now I am trying to forget about her and start new, when quarantine is over. Plenty girls in my new city. Don't need to chase anyone.

[–]Blazer21004 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I needed this. Thank you man.

[–]TheOnePucnhMan1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I disagree with this to an extent, I have several women I can get with sexually but I still have oneitis for a particular girl, although it certainly decreased once I was able to do better with women

[–]Zech4riah1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Would you obsess over Stacy if Eva was available to fuck tonight? Would you care that Eva flaked if Claire was down to come over?

Even tho you have abundance, you will still have your favorite girl or favorite girl to do certain things with so I could possible care (but definitely not obsess) - and what I've noticed, the favorite girl will change from a week or month to another depending on how they perform and entertain you.

But I assume you didn't talk about this kind of caring.

[–]JaevonTheDon1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I rememeber watching this Netflix show. Don't know what it was called but I remember a particular chracter saying something the lines along "Oh, don't get to down over her, Plenty of bitches in the sea. I don't know why this has stuck with me but anytime with me something goes wrong with a women I literally say to myself "Plenty of bitches in the sea, don't get to down. I've been having this mentality for quite sometime now.

[–][deleted] 1 point2 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Hahaha! Fucking hell I love red pill literature (her plates spin themselves).

[–]anoukdaae3 points4 points  (7 children) | Copy Link

Women outnumber men in all but 9 states so there really isn't much reason for men not to swimming in vagina, honestly.

[–]Yummmi34 points35 points  (6 children) | Copy Link

“at age 85 and older, women outnumber men by a ratio of 2-to-1”

You seen it here first boys. Go to your local nursing homes to find your plates.

[–]anoukdaae6 points7 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

rofl, I mean, I didn't say they were great options, just that technically guys have more options .

tbh the image you just conjured is the funniest thing. Thank you for the chuckles XD

[–]alikebabay0 points1 point  (3 children) | Copy Link

Try looking at young girls numbers. Men outnumber young women totally.

[–]anoukdaae-1 points0 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Well then, maybe that's the issue for why ladies have spinning plates and men don't? Idk, man, maybe "young girls" aren't what you should be aiming for? Sounds a little...illegal.

[–]alikebabay0 points1 point  (1 child) | Copy Link

18-30. May be 35 40, but that is stretching the limit Nothing illegal. You want 40 and up, suit yourself.

[–]anoukdaae0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ah okay, so women then. Gotcha.

Not sure how to help you.

[–]thechaosz0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

My best advice is listen to rappers.

"All bitches just hoes, even my winning l stinking ass momma"

[–]yomo860 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

As soon as you have something other in your head than women by having enough chances to fuck this night, this week or hell even this month, playing stupid cosmo games becomes an irritating nuissance for your and a hardcore aphrodisiac for women.

[–]PardonMyFrench-0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

In French, we have this saying "une de perdue, dix de retrouvées".
It literally means "you lost one, you will get ten more".
There are plenty more fish in the sea !

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[–]Coolrubbings8 points9 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

That wasn’t my point, my point was to never invest your full being into a woman to the point of obsession.

A lot of men are monogamous because they enjoy it, but a lot of them actually just don’t have any other options or feel like they can’t do better.

Be monogamous, that’s fine, but don’t pine after a single woman who doesn’t reciprocate

[–]PlatinumHands-4 points-3 points  (4 children) | Copy Link

kept reading "Oneitis" as some french name Onéitis

Until I realized it was meant to be read "one it is"

[–]countinginsolitude10 points11 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

Actually it's meant to be read as ONE-iTIS. As in...rhymes a bit with bronchitis..... Oneitis...when you've only got one woman on your mind. She's the one. No one else can compete...

[–]TylerTheBox2 points3 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Ah, thanks for the clarification.

[–]PaulAbruzzo0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

your band's name is the "one-ders?" It looks like the "o needers"

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[–]bemore_1 point2 points  (2 children) | Copy Link

That's just ego talk. There's so many women better than your oneitis, you just have to leave your city for perspective. Leave your country and you're mind will explode, you'll immediately acquire an abundance mindset and first thing you'll do is start working on yourself

The girl I was hung up on in the imaginary world of high school if I look at her facebook pics now, she's fat ! We're only 24 now, it would be sad of me to want her to crawl back! Best thing you can do for yourself is move on and get your shit together, life tends to reward these

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[–]bemore_0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link

Of course you can do that with your oneitis but why would you want to? Just find a better girl. You've gone through the fire, you've changed.. So what's in it for you now

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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