A lot of men (including myself) at one point typically look for a certain trait or characteristic in a particular woman they are looking. They want a girl who is affectionate, kinky in bed, will make them food, wash their clothes ect. But the thing is these "traits" or "characteristics" in my experience are not found in just particular women, every women can do these things. The question isn't will she do them, the question WHO will she do it for.
Kinda like how on tinder girls say "Not looking for a hookup." Its more like "Not looking to hookup UNLESS the right guy comes around (the one with a higher SMV then her's)." A woman will choke on your dick, let you fuck her in the ass, make your food, do your laundry, and a plethora of other things IF your SMV is higher the hers. Otherwise you're in a constant battle of fighting for the upper hand in a relationship, and proving to her who's SMV is higher.
How many posts from Beta men have you seen of the variety that include, "I found out my girlfriend used to do anal with her ex boyfriend/fwb but she won't do it with me." Or "My girlfriend is absolutely fantastic BUT she wont do xyz for me." AKA you're too beta but Chad? Yeah she did whatever Chad wanted her to do. For most of these issues its more then likely because your SMV simply isn't that high or even around her level. So she has no reason to go above and beyond to satisfy your needs because she's "the catch." She's the one you need to be worried about branch swinging, but let's say if your SMV was significantly higher then her's don't you think she'd be doing everything in her power to keep you happy? Going above and beyond the call of duty to satisfy her man so he doesn't need to pursue his other options. Yes, yes she would.
This is why I strongly advocate for ALL red pill men to always be working on improving your SMV no matter what. This should be one of your goals in life, doing so you'll have the upper hand in almost any relationship you have. This is another reason why in general I buy more into the Red pill over PUA. PUA will teach you how to get a girl for the night which is ok but after numerous hookups you defintely want something more. The red pill is a life style, you want to build an awesome life and increasing your SMV along the way. SMV= Everything. Focus on that. Don't get all caught up on looking for a girl that will do xyz. Every girl can do that, but will she do that for you? That's up to your SMV. The higher your SMV is the hotter the girl you can date down to. Dating down ensures your plate/LTR is fighting tooth and nail to satisfy your needs because she does not want to lose "her catch." Be the catch.
Anyways this is something I learned overtime, and wish I learned sooner.
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