My best friend accused my boyfriend of sexual assault.

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Here's the thing, though. The night she claims it happened, I was in bed next to her the entire time. We had gone out drinking, and I offered to share a bed with her so she wouldn't have to get an uber all the way home.

I woke up in the middle of the night to her having some kind of sex dream, as well as masturbating. I was so shocked that I just rolled away and pretended to be asleep until she stopped. I didn't mention it in the morning because it was such an awkward experience.

A few weeks later, my boyfriend broke down and revealed to me that she had texted him accusing him of sexually assaulting her while she slept (my boyfriend was in another room that night, and only entered the room while I was awake to kiss me goodnight).

I asked her about it, saying that I knew it hadn't happened and explaining what I woke up and saw. I told her that I believe that she believes what she is saying, but that I saw her having a dream and touching herself which is why she was confused. When we initially spoke, she told me she remembered almost nothing and that she thought I was probably right, that she had likely dreamed the assault.

Now, the story is different. We spoke again recently, and she says now that she remembers everything, that she had physical symptoms of assault, and that she is certain that he assaulted her. This is less than two weeks after our initial conversation. She is furious that I don't believe her (keep in mind, I never claimed she was lying, only that she was confusing a dream with reality), and she has cut me off from almost all forms of contact. She accused me of being a tease because I slept in bed with her, and told me that I'm not a true friend because I didn't leave my boyfriend after she accused him.

What do I do? I am a light sleeper, and I know nothing happened like what she's describing. I want to believe survivors like her, but she has no evidence, her story has changed multiple times, and again, I was IN BED WITH HER the entire time. My boyfriend, who was good friends with her before this, is completely devastated, as am I. I can't tell anyone in my life what happened, but our mutual friends have started to ask questions about why my best friend and I don't speak anymore.

Any advice, support, or even if you want to tell me I'm in the wrong, would be welcomed. I can't tell anyone but the internet about this. Please, please help me.

Edit: hi everyone, I appreciate all the help so much. I'm emotionally exhausted and having trouble responding to everyone, though I will continue to try. Thank you to whoever gave me gold, I feel a bit weird about it but I appreciate the gesture of confidence. I will update in the post itself if anything changes in my real-life situation.