Our good friend u/moorekom gave us a good summary of Boys on the Side by Hanna Rosin. You can read his article here.
As always, there are a lot of takeaways you should get and internalize from a topnotch article like Moorekom's. So I'll make one of my little listicles here for your reference.
1) Hookup culture is here to stay, at least for the time being. Hookup is part of the Western cultural and intersexual relationship scene now. If you want relationships with women, hookup will be part of that. Or, she will have hooked up with other men.
2) This is what women are really like. Women are not sugar and spice and everything nice. Women are calculating, self-interested, selfish, shallow, and cold hard self-promoters. They're extraordinarily good liars. They will conceal their pasts from you. They will use you and exploit you, and not lose a second's sleep over it. They will take advantage of you, if you allow them to.
3) Women like it like this. The current social structure is great for most of them. Women very much enjoy having consequence-free casual sex. All of society is set up to advantage women in every way imaginable. And not surprisingly, women really like this, revel in it, and use it to every conceivable advantage.
4) Women still expect men to adhere to traditional gender roles of pursuit, investment, payment, provision, protection, and bearing all risk. Women get to do pretty much whatever they want. But they still want, hope for, and expect, men to do the traditional things men do. The article contains a statement from one slut that all she wants is for a guy to ask her on a cheap date to go get yogurt or something. "Just ask me out on a date." "Just ask me to go out." "Just buy me a drink."
They expect men to chase, pursue, and compete with other men for them. They expect men to pay. They expect men to invest in them and commit to them. They expect men to provide for them. And they expect men to lay down their lives for them, figuratively and literally.
But what do you get in return for all that? Nothing. You're not entitled to anything. You're not entitled to expect anything or even ask for anything.
5) Men are blamed for the problems. Women have all these benefits and advantages, but assume no responsibility for the problems or detriments. This is because no one holds them accountable. No one - from individual men, to husbands, to employers, to spiritual leaders, to law enforcement - imposes standards on women, for anything, anywhere.
Never, ever forget these things.
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