The basis of communication

The human being is filled with thoughts and feelings, wills and desires, delights and discomforts, needs and wants. Some of these are conscious, others are not.

The essence of communication is the transference of an idea from one place to another. From one person to another, from thoughts to paper and from the subconscious to the conscious (and many more). The human body is continuously communicating various messages between the limbs and organs.

Interpersonal communication is when a massage gets passed from one person to another. These messages are sometimes verbal, sometimes non verbal. Some will say that the majority of human communication is nonverbal.

Mixed messages

People become confused when the verbal and nonverbal messages don't match up with each other or worse, when they outright contradict each other. Being that actions speak louder than words, people are more likely to believe your actions - your nonverbal communication - and disbelieve your words. This is tolerable here and there but will certainly lead to a great deal of frustration if done regularly.

There are some cases where you're compelled by law to believe the words over the actions. For example - if her body language indicates a strong desire for sex but she says no, he'd be locked up for rape if he goes ahead with the sex. However, because of the mixed messages she's sending him, the relationship between the two will suffer a serious blow.

This natural confusion is multiplied by the fact that men are more likely to have false positives and women are more likely to have false negatives. In simple terms - a man is likely to think she's interested when she isn't (false positive) and a woman is likely to think he isn't interested when he really is (false negative).

Additionally, a man's conscious sexual arousal is likely to match his body's physical arousal. A woman's conscious arousal often contradicts her body's physical arousal. (They proved this through attaching a device that measures blood flow and swelling etc to the penis or vagina of the participants. They then showed them benign flims with random interjections of erotic images. The participants were to use a joystick to indicate their level of arousal throughout the film. When the pornographic images appeared, the men moved the stick to indicate arousal while the women moved the stick to indicate being turned off. However, their vaginas told a different story). This is part of the last minute resistance that results from her dual mating strategy.

This is confusing to the man because her body indicates a desire for sex while her mouth indicates a lack of desire or vice versa. Her mouth says “I love you” and her actions scream “I hate you” or “I don't care for you” or vice versa. If you live with a woman and even more so if you're married to her - these mixed messages wear down the male mind and heart. We like to get to the point, do you love me or not? Are you interested in sex right now or not? Do you admire me or not? All this wishy-washy, plausible deniability is exhausting bullshit to the male psyche.

Broadcasting to the world through clothing and demeanor

The type of clothing we wear, sends messages about ourselves to the world. Our facial expressions and body language does the same. These messages are broadcast whether we like them or not. Body language experts can often expose the true intentions that lays behind the lies and bluff.

Some clothing say - take me seriously. Some clothing say - take me sexually. Some clothing say - look here. Some clothing say - nothing to see here. Some clothing say - open for business. Some clothing say - I'm closed off. Oftentimes, there are several messages being broadcast simultaneously.

When a woman wears a push-up bra with a low cut shirt that accentuates her cleavage, that sends a loud message to the male gaze. It says look here buddy. Likewise with form fitting yoga pants that accentuate the butt. Likewise with many other articles of clothing and accessories that say - look here.

When a woman wears a short skirt or a button down shirt that's open down the middle, it sends a message that says - I want you to imagine what's beyond the curtain.

When a man wears a suit and tie with nice shoes, it sends a message that says - I'm a respectable person who's ready for business. Take me seriously.

When a man wears baggy pants halfway down his ass with a hoodie over his head and wobbles like a duck, it sends a message that says - I'm a lowlife and possibly a thug who has nothing real going on in his life.

TRP is about seeking the truth even when uncomfortable. The truth is that your clothing and your body language broadcast messages to the world. Furthermore, you get to choose what to wear but you don't get to choose who will see you once you step outside.

When a woman wears clothing that screams look here, she shouldn't be surprised when men look and stare nor should she be offended when low class men stare at her. You have no control over who sees you in a public place. When she and many other women admonish men for looking, men as a whole receive a giant confusing mixed message.

When a collage girl dresses up in fuck me clothing and braves the freezing cold to go to a party only to drink and act all slutty - she shouldn't be surprised when guys treat her like the sex object that she made herself to be. She always has the legal right to stop things at any point but - after sending so many “fuck me” messages all night long - her words that say “stop” might just be ignored at that point. No one is excusing rape, sexual assault or anything like that. However, just because the man is responsible for his part, doesn't mean that she is obsolved of responsibility for her own safety and wellbeing.

When a wife dresses up for weddings and community functions and acts all flirty with people while dressing in drab clothing and acting all grumpy at home, she sends a clear unspoken message to her husband that says - you're boring and they're interesting. I don't have much sexual interest in you but I do for them. She can swear up and down that she really loves her husband more, but it'll fall on deaf ears because her actions don't match up to her words.

Conclusion

We can go on all day regarding specific clothing and demeanor and the messages they broadcast. The point is clear - clothing and demeanor broadcast things about you whether you like it or not, whether you're conscious of it or not.

If your words don't match the message being broadcast, it'll lead to confusion and frustration. If your words contradict the unspoken messages, it'll compound this confusion and frustration.

Women who constantly engage in sending mixed messages (consciously or subconsciously), make it extremely difficult to have meaningful relationships with them. Drama, mixed messages and bullshit are tiring and draining for men. These same women often lack the self awareness to realize that they are the authors of their own sad story as they moan the big complaint of -where are all the good men? Where oh where have they gone?!?!?

You know where the good men went? They walked away from mixed messages and dramatic bullshit. They walked away from having to waste brain cells to try and romance you, seduce you and generally keep you interested. You aren't interested? Fine. No problem. Neither are we.

Send the message you want the whole world to see!

Cheers!