I was always overlooked, no woman paid attention to me and even well into my 30's they don't. I struggled dating my entire life. It has always been non-existent. To this day, it really hasn't changed.

Unfortunately, if I was a "bad boy," I wouldn't be in my situation but I grew up in really hard circumstances so I am thankful for everything I have even though it's far less what people have handed to them.

I treat everyone with respect. I don't care if your man, woman, child or elderly....I won't be a douchebag without reason.

I am well into my 30s, once women find out I am super responsible, successful and still single, some have implied that they are looking to settle down or would like a family with a responsible man.

You ever heard of stereotypical "nice guy," the ones who act nice for sex and if they are declined, they treat and say the rudest things to the girl?

Well, there is a female version of it. The "settling down" woman. I have turned a few down and I been called gay, my appearance has been made fun of, I can't be choosy, or called an incel. Really hurtful stuff. None of these women I lead on, had sex with them or even gone on dates with.

I have a friend who I view as a friend and nothing more. She has been telling people that she is looking for a man to have a family and a child with. She told me once and I gave her sound advice but she has gotten quite touchy with me and I am going to soon shoot down her advances.

I am worried and a bit terrified on how she is going to react to me telling her to keep things as friends.

Someone recently told me that she asked if I was secretly gay. I am not. I am sure she has no interest in me as a person but all the interest due to her situation. It really hurts that's all they see me for what a feel is less than a human being. Like I supposed to be at their mercy and when I decline, I have to lose a friend but also get berated with insults.

How do other men approach this?