Some of the items discussed below are not entirely my ideas and I do not claim credit for all. This work is an amalgam of things that I have read and heard over the past 10 years and my own personal opinions, attitude, and thoughts. If you are hoping to have footnotes, bibliography, citations, and other supporting information, then you will be sadly disappointed. I am not a college student and am not actually submitting a thesis paper. Currently, I am writing this on my on my breaks between welding some shoring posts, repairing an HVAC unit, cooking dinner for my kids, and other shit I have to get done. I am a skilled tradesman and not an intellectual type, writing is not my forte. Considering this I am open to discussion and suggestions regarding content and editing.

At r/whereareallthegoodmen we are continually discussing dating profiles and articles about women that constantly ask “Where are all the Good Men” and exposing them for their hypocrisy, foul attitudes, lack of femininity, ignorance of their aging, unreasonable expectations, and much more. There are many answers to this patronizing question and most responses, in one form or another, lead directly back to feminism and unchecked natural female behavior. However, while the answer of “Feminism and Hypergamy” is very true, it is too much of a generalization to allow for true understanding and does not provide an area of discussion that can lead to some tangible item to be addressed, corrected, or changed.

For this post, I am only going to discuss three items: The American Industrial Revolution, Female Herd Instinct, and Literature/Entertainment. These three things, in my opinion, had and have an impact on women’s behaviors and as a result, leading men to avoid them. By ‘avoid them’ I mean to say: AVOID THEM (avoid dating them, avoid talking to them, avoid helping them, avoid seducing them, avoid procreating with them, avoid interacting with them, and by all means…avoid marrying them.) For all intents and purposes to men, women have become the plague riddled rats of the dark ages. They infest and infect anything, everything, and everyone that they come into contact with. It has become apparent that to save humanity, men must either GTOW or become defacto lotharios. There appears to be no other safe course of action for anyone in the western world that has external genitalia.

**Industrial Revolution

In my opinion, one of the first factors in the negative behavior of girls and women in the past 30 years is the industrial revolution. You may read this and say “WTF, u/anyoneinamerica, the industrial revolution was over 100 years ago” and you would be correct. Unfortunately, some problems take many years to fully manifest. The period from the beginning of the industrial revolution to the great depression and WWII have had a catastrophic impact on our culture(s) and society. It has allowed the United States to become a manufacturing, intellectual, economic, and military super power; but the side effects have also allowed the great titan of democracy and freedom to edge closer and closer to collapse. We started out as a primarily agricultural economy with some manufactured products, but from the start of the industrial revolution we, as a country and economy, moved more toward manufacturing. Women had no part in this outside of domestic responsibility. The manpower, the raw materials, and the ideas that lead to economic prosperity were solely that of the male mind, body, and determination. While no one can really argue that economic prosperity resulting from the industrial revolution is/was a positive for the United States, there was a significant problem created that effected the female population and male population alike but in different ways. The father was removed from the household.

Men no longer worked the fields around their homes. They no longer saw their offspring for most of the day. Boys were no longer around a father that acted like a man; not allowing the next generation of men to learn through observation and imitation. Boys were no longer learning how to deal with women by watching their father. They were no longer learning how to interact with other men by watching their fathers. Boys were being raised and educated by women which provide absolutely zero positive masculinity; and worse allowed them to become the victims of their mother’s vitriol and allowed mom the ability to program them to be future “good men”. The concepts of honor, integrity, character, strength, perseverance, and responsibility was not passed on in ways that it was in the past. In short, with each generation of boys born there was more lost about the ways of being manly or masculine leaving them to learn masculinity through what they read.

The effects of the more absent father was a blow to the maturation process of boys becoming men, but it has proved to be absolutely catastrophic to generations of girls growing into women. They were left in an environment where a woman (mom) had total control over the home and everyone in it. They learned how to treat men by watching mom deride and ridicule their male siblings. They learned the vitriol and hate for men from mom since dad was not around to correct her. The father figure, that should be present in and around the home, being absent prevented young impressionable girls from learning positive relationships with men. Leaving them to define their behavior and relationship choices from their mother’s, and other women’s, opinions and what they read.

**Herd Mentality

There has been much discussion in the manosphere about men being pack animals and women being herd animals. While this is pretty evident to casual observation, women still cling to the claim of their ‘independence’ and power. Again, with casual observation of female behaviors and deaf ears toward what they outright say, you can confirm that women are indeed herd creatures. Women are biologically wired to be part of a herd. They are horrified of being alone and blindly follow, comply, and conform to the herd regardless of the pitfalls and personal damage that it may present to her, you, or anyone else. Even worse, she will blindly follow the herd regardless of how badly the herd has treated her. She will always conform to the will of the herd because ‘there are safety in numbers’ and nothing scares her more than excommunication from the herd. Just like a cow follows a herd of cattle and a horse follows a herd of horses; a woman will follow her herd of woman right off the edge of a cliff. The only difference is that she will scream blame toward any man in her life right up until the moment she bounces off the canyon floor.

Logic, reason, accountability, and rational thought are routes to truth. The herd eschews truth and wisdom because it doesn’t conform to the herd’s feelings. The emotions of the herd are what guides it because a herd is just a group of ignorant animals. Try to use logic in a discussion or argument with a woman and you will not win. You would yield better results from banging your head against the wall. This is mainly due to the fact that you are, in effect, banging your head against the wall of herd mentality. A woman is so hard wired to the herd that she will do and say anything necessary to maintain that acceptance of the herd and destroy anything that threatens her attachment. She will lie, cheat, steal, fuck, suck, and murder anyone that threatens her herd’s perception, regardless of how much fact and evidence that you provide to the contrary. Friedrich Nietzsche wrote about this and many other unpopular thoughts on women. Such as:

“From the beginning, nothing has been more alien, repugnant, and hostile to woman than truth—her great art is the lie, her highest concern is mere appearance and beauty”

“Woman’s love involves injustice and blindness against everything that she does not love...Woman is not yet capable of friendship: women are still cats and birds. Or at best cows…”

“Woman! One-half of mankind is weak, typically sick, changeable, inconstant…she needs religion of weakness that glorifies being weak, loving and being humble as divine: or better she makes the strong weak—she rules when she succeeds in overcoming the strong…Woman has always conspired with the types of decadence, the priests, against the ‘powerful’, the ‘strong’, the men.” (Will to Power 1906)

It turns out that his observations and comments were likely the most accurate ever published.

**Literature and Entertainment Media

As men we read, watch TV, watch movies, listen to music, and other forms of entertainment for the purpose of entertainment or to learn. As men capable of logical and linear thought, we are also capable of discerning the difference between fantasy and reality (usually). Most of us that watched Angelina Jolie in Tomb Raider know that a 135-pound woman (15 pounds of that being breasts) could not, in all practical reality, defeat 20 armed, trained, and physically imposing mercenaries in hand to hand combat. On the same line of thought, we also wouldn’t believe that an average geek that is a high school senior could attract and woo a twenty something porn star goddess like in ‘The Girl Next Door.’ To attempt to believe any of this crap is offensive to our sense of logic and common fucking sense. Conversely, we read history, watch the news, and listen to political talk radio to learn. We learn what happened. We learn why it happened. We learn whom to believe and whom not to. As men, we never stop learning and bettering ourselves and our minds.

Oscar Wilde wrote that “life imitates art far more than art imitates life.” (The Decay of Lying 1891). What did he mean by that, I don’t fucking know nor do I really care. I choose to interpret it to mean that we as people will try to imitate what we see (read, watch, hear) in an attempt to be like one another. The art is a representation of the artist’s imagination and rarely is an actual depiction of some real concept. Art, regardless of its form, is intended to divert the mind from reality, provide a moment of happiness, and showcase beauty for the briefest of moments. It allows us to escape the pain of reality for a fleeting moment and this works well for men. Sadly, this is not the case for women and their conformist herd/hive minds. For them, the lines between fiction and reality are blurred to the point that one becomes the other. Thus, explaining the fashion fads and the constant need to mimic the Kardashian clan, the Real Whores of whatever fucking town, and the red-carpet divas for every award show that clogs up the air waves. The members of the herd must follow the rest of the herd.

To one extreme or another, this behavior of women to incorporate their fantasies with reality has always been the case. However, it seems in current times it has become worse and more untenable. A few days ago I commented on a post about women having unreasonable expectations being the result of their immersion into fantasy instead of reality.

Virtually all media (books, movies, music, and TV shows) are directed at 'Young Adult' women (obvious contradiction). All are all cut from the same template. All of the characters in the story line are strong, supernatural, sexy, tall, dark, handsome, rich, etc. etc. etc. Basically, steeped in culture and sophistication, have stupid money, can be a male model, and has a dick like a thorough bred stallion. However, the main protagonist is a NPC non-descript female that is normal and average in every way imaginable and the story is written in the NPC's first-person perspective. Despite her average looks, intellect, and socioeconomic status she is able to have an adventure, travel everywhere, be the love interest of one or more alpha male characters (whom must fight for her 'love'), is the heroine of the story, and lives happily ever after with Chad Super-ThunderCock. The reason why the stories are written in first person of the main character and why the main character is an average NPC is because it allows the female reader to become that character. Recent examples are:

Twilight series

Hunger Games series

Divergent series

Mortal Instrument Series

Vampire Academy Series

50 shades Series

The list is endless and most have been made into movies. To make matters worse; these are not only read by teenage girls and it is now commonplace for them to be read by fully grown "adult" women. Unfortunately for us, and them, is that they are not capable of differentiating fact from fiction. Just like the hamster aids and supports them in believing the lies that spurt from their mouths, it also helps to convince them that this bullshit is real and that they actually deserve a tall, dark, handsome, hung, misunderstood, brooding, rich man that will fall madly in love with them, give them everything that they desire, be at their beck and call, and never forsake them. I mean why not, they have the magical pussy that squirts fairy dust, tames wild animals, and humanizes monsters! After all if homely Bella can conquer and tame Edward and keep Jacob's dick in a glass case (break glass in case of emergency); then why can't some 30-50 year old that face planted in the wall expect the same?

The fantasy is no longer good enough, the real world (read men) are now expected to live up to these standards. If you are not a 6 foot tall, ruggedly handsome, vampire, model, with unlimited money, and willing to dedicate 99% of your time to serving (AND SAVING) her, then you are not worth her time and she will just go break that glass case of emergency dick with money.

A common reply to this line of conversation is for a woman to say,

“ Just because we like to read about getting fucked by a vampire with a huge horse cock that is white and pasty while being tied down in the red room of pain and flogged with a whip and forced to eat some other girls pussy then raped by a werewolf that is my BFF’s boyfriend whom has his own makeup line and models part time for the Gap; doesn’t mean that we actually want to live and experience that in real life.”

To that I would wonder why there is so much movement to BDSM, cosplay, rape clubs, glory holes, polyamory, open relationshits, cuckholdry, and an unprecedented out of marriage pregnancy rate. Heartiste from Chataeu Heartiste (I have no clue who he is in real life) provided a pretty good reply to a similar question. He said,

“This is a common argument from those who can’t bear the retinal scorching from viewing female sexual nature head on, and its bullshit. If fantasy were not a reflection of true desire, then we wouldn’t see a near-universal preference among women for a particular type of sexual fantasy. We would instead see a million women have a million different fantasies completely severed from any actual feelings of lustful desire, and shlock like Twilight or 50 Shades, which conform very closely to one or two specific female fantasy archetypes, wouldn’t sell hundreds of millions of copy.”

**Conclusion

In an effort to support the industrial revolution and the growth of the country, men sacrificed their responsibility to their sons and daughters. They failed to teach their sons how to be masculine and how women should be treated, both tenderly and harshly. They failed to show their daughters what a ‘real man’ is, how to conduct herself around men, and how to properly attract and keep a ‘real man’. They failed to treat their wives like women should be treated, force her to keep her true nature under control, and allowed them to rejoin the herd of women. The herd mentality of women is a destructive force to relationships with men. Women will wantonly betray any relationshit with a man if it means separating from the herd. Women’s ability to discern between fantasy and reality has skewed their views on life and their expectations of what type of man is actually in the world and more accurately what type of man they can reasonably expect to attract.

With the obvious lack of authority or ability to control any aspect of the world around him and the inability to regain control that was sacrificed by his grand-father and great grand-father combined with the impossible expectations currently set by women’s unreasonable imaginations as influenced by the herd through media; the “Real Men” and “Good Men” have been left with a choice to either avoid the cancer that women have become or become a sniveling simp for the herd’s abuse and entertainment. Most have chosen option to avoid the poison and miserable life of being with a woman and have chosen to live the life of happy and successful bachelor. I don’t see any change in these circumstances in the near future, so you strong independent women with your list of 576 requirements can try to find them in a lesbian relationshit or maybe if you have 45 cats, then they can meet some of the demands.

I am happy with my life and I no longer give a fuck if you are or not. It’s the bed that you made, now lie in it and die alone.