A bit of a rant here and a story. Little bit of preface:

So I'm a college student in the Midwest. I'm older than the typical college senior in their last semester (25) but I've been job training for tech certifications, matured a lot and worked hard for good grades and internships to set up my life after college. I've worked hard not to associate myself with people who don't contribute to my personal happiness or growth. I'm a man of high standards, because I will be hitting high standards with my work ethic and I hold myself to high standards regarding personal responsibility, and my own finances as well. I have chosen not to settle for someone after spending time when I was younger being awkward, less confident, and willing to compromise my values for the very temporary comfort of a woman.

So last week, I'm out at the bar with some friends and the night is over, I work part time at the bar a couple nights out of the week, so they let me stay after close and shoot the shit. I do my usual drunk swiping on tinder, and I joke to the bouncer that I need a report button for single moms looking for a bailout. Cue to this mid 30s woman who is a local, and gives me a dirty look and says "What's wrong with single moms trying to date again?" to which I said as I turn to her "Here we go" look gets even nastier. I explain that plenty of my female friends tell me they ignore single dads; so it's completely viable for me to not want to be a lifeboat for a girl who let some dude bust inside of her, because you know, equality. Taking responsibility for your decisions. All that good shit. Well she starts to say that she's got three kids and she didn't CHOOSE for her man to be a piece of shit and beat her. Despite having 2 kids with him, and a third with some other dude who left. I shrugged my shoulders and said "You didn't really care if he was a quality guy when you had the freedom to choose, so now that you've got kids someone else should bite that bullet?" then I get the "Kids shouldn't be a punishment-blah blah blah, a real man who loved me would XYZ" and told me that I shouldn't judge. I told her "Whether I'm judging or not, I think it's fair for me to say that I can set a standard for myself and say that I don't want a woman with someone else's kids, period"

The female bartenders came to the aid of the spokeswoman for Arby's and told me if they weren't working they'd punch me, for having the same opinion and standards that women have about men. I shrugged my shoulders and said "Tough shit, if women are truly equal they are just as responsible and capable as men to make decisions for their own lives or walk away from shitty situations."