Link:

http://captaincapitalism.blogspot.co.uk/2012/07/costs-of-playerhood.html

As a guy who dabbled in cold approach for a little while, I can confirm most of what Aaron Clarey talks about here. When it comes to cold approaches, my observation has been that most men don't do it and even for men who do it, they eventually stop after a while. This is usually not for lack of trying or laziness or not having the "winner mentality". In truth, as Aaron talks about it in his article, it is always about the cost. There are good reasons, on top of the reasons Aaron talks about in the link, why guys stop doing it:

  • Most of it goes nowhere.

  • It is a huge ego boost for the girl.

  • You do all the work while she will sit there looking at you like a dancing monkey that is there to amuse her.

  • Most girls will use you to entertain themselves. Even if they give you their numbers, it will not go anywhere almost 50% of the time.

  • You have to be on the move for cold approach to be effective. If you're staying at a single place and approaching people there, you are eventually going to get kicked out.

  • Ultimately, it is you chasing her.

For its intended purpose, cold approach does more harm than good. But, I would recommend everyone to try it for one reason: if you are socially awkward, this will cure it like nothing else. Cold approach gives you everything other than what people advertise it would. For most guys, it starts out with the intention of getting laid and then ends up transitioning into self improvement. The connections you make, the confidence you derive from it etc are more valuable than fucking a few strangers. My suggestion would be to go and talk to everyone instead of just talking to girls. When you walk out of your home, it is mode on and you should engage with anyone and everyone. Treat it like an experiment. Do not try to forge deep connections. Try to have fun and casual conversations. If something develops from there, congrats. You might have a new friend.

By the end of this, you will become charming and most likely will get rid of your inhibitions. Done this way, cold approaching can help make you very sociable and charming. But for approaching girls alone, it is indeed a waste of time. You would be better off improving yourself.

Apart from the gate keeping you will need to look out for in various locations, you also need to consider the fact that women's interaction with you are dictated by your attractiveness and the mood of the woman you are interacting with. One of the aspects you need to consider is that women have been coddled by the people around them so much that they lack common etiquette, let alone grace. This is the reason women feel comfortable shit testing you viciously. Even in a lot of manosphere circles, shit testing is not seen as bad behavior that needs to be punished. It is seen as a test that you need to pass. Something to qualify to so that you can get access to her holes. Don't chase women.