It's one of the most common refrains from women, based on one of the most misused and deliberately misunderstood phrases ever uttered.

"Don't Judge Me!"

"Judge not, lest ye be judged!"

"You can't judge me!"

Followed by another misused phrase:

"Don't cast stones at me!"

"You can't cast a stone at me!"


I'll leave aside the proper interpretations of those Bible verse fragments. Suffice it to say the women screaming these things at you take the phrases out of context, and deliberately mangle and misunderstand the phrases to suit their own ends.

They use those distorted, out of context Bible verse fragments to demand that they never, ever be judged for anything they do. They demand that no one ever assess them. They absolutely rail against any suggestion that anyone, especially men, be permitted to hold them to any kind of standard.

Fuck that noise.

Yes, women are being judged. Yes, I am judging them. Yes, we are judging them. Yes, we do have standards in mind. Yes, we are assessing them to see how they measure up to those standards. And we have done so, we will do so, and we will continue to do so, whether they know it or not, whether they like it or not.


People judge other people every day. Everyone judges. You judge others, and others judge you. This happens all the time, every hour of every day. Sometimes you know you're being judged, most times you aren't even aware of it. Sometimes you know the bases or criteria on which you're being judged; most times you do not because the people doing the judging never tell you.

In case you haven't figured this out yet, let me tell you: Women are judging you. They're judging you based on literally everything about you, from your outward physical characteristics, to how you present yourself, to your conduct, to the most minute details of your personality. And they are judging you with a brutality, mercilessness and ruthlessness that you can't even hope to approximate or fathom.

So you judge them. And you should not feel any compunction or qualms whatsoever about judging them. Because they're judging you, fairly or unfairly.

You can use whatever criteria you want to judge a woman, or women in general. No one else gets to decide how you judge them: Certainly not women, and not even other men. So you judge them however you want. Disregard totally any protestations that women make about this. You're going to judge them anyway, so you might as well do it how you want based on criteria you select.

Women make the "DON'T YOU JUDGE ME, ASSHOLE" statement because they want to dissuade you from judging them even as they judge you. They also want to shame you into not judging them.

Shaming techniques are incredibly effective against men. A lot of men have been led to believe that if they conform their conduct to what women want, then women will give them what they want. Women have long, long used shaming techniques to say, in essence, "If you do what I want/give me what I want, I will have sex with you. But if you don't, no sex for you!"

Women also hate judgment because judgment leads to rejection, and women hate being rejected. Rejection injures women worse, because they aren't accustomed to it as men are. When it comes to their interactions with men, women are accustomed to being given everything they want, and being told they're entitled to whatever they want. Women are not accustomed to men holding them to standards and expectations, and they're not accustomed to having obligations to a man. They're especially not accustomed to some man they're seriously considering for a long term relationship having standards for them. When it comes to their relationships with men, women are accustomed to getting to run everything and make all the decisions. "I have the pussy, so I make the rules", goes the attitude.

Your attitude has to be "I don't care. I'm judging you anyway. We both know you're judging me, so I get to judge you. Fair is fair. You judge me, I judge you. And I get to decide how I judge you.

"Yes, I'm judging you."

Remember, men:

You don't owe a woman, or women, anything.

You are not required to give them anything, do anything for them, validate them, or attend to them.