I can’t find a partner. How can I learn to love my single life? 🤔 Dilemma of a washed out, 48 year old hag. 🎻🎻🎻😺😸😹😻😼😽🙀😿😾🐈🐈🐈🐈🐈

thisisnotyourconcern · 2021-07-02T19:34:14+00:00

Mariella Frostrup is a lunatic. Honestly, I am quite shocked she doesn't feature on here a whole lot more!

TheSigilStone · 2021-07-02T19:55:26+00:00

She starts off by being philosophical, yet the last paragraph encourages her to keep riding the CC in foreign countries and to settle down with Beta-Bux Billy. How hilarious 😂

Bob_and_Virginia · 2021-07-02T21:13:35+00:00

Ah. Another gem from that toxic British filth rag 'The Guardian' again. Funny how they always beg for money on the website claiming they are champions of "truth and integrity".

Ptui! Bob spits on them.

plz_say_sike · 2021-07-02T23:12:18+00:00

When it comes to these articles, I play this game to see how many words it takes before the writer calls herself “independent”. It only took 11 words this time which beats the former record holder of 47.

WaitingForWormwood · 2021-07-02T21:10:44+00:00

This is fucking disturbing for a few reasons. They’re so proud to be single moms..... like y’all definitely had the opportunity to live a stable life but didn’t take it because.... reasons?

Then this bitch has the nerve to say: “I love my daughter BUT” [I want dick more than I want to be a mother.]

PirateDocBrown · 2021-07-02T21:29:24+00:00

She met a dude at 39, and then had a couple of kids with him??? That's really rolling the dice with your kids fate!

black_snake_m0an · 2021-07-03T05:11:01+00:00

Ugh I hate that this article perpetuates the antiquated idea that you’ll meet someone when you aren’t looking for love. That leads to a bunch of women thinking mr. right is going to come knocking on the door, but most of these women work in female dominated fields if they even leave the house at all, so many work from home. You won’t get anything in life without putting in effort. I have always made an effort to speak to the good looking shy guys I was into... that’s how my current relationship began, and how I met my ex boyfriend who is genuinely a great person. Both of these guys are good looking and faithful, but neither was confident enough to talk me up until I made it obvious I was interested. The men who are charming and confident enough to approach women in a manner that will give them “tingles” are far less likely to be looking for a relationship... they’re looking for a hookup. So when a man does come out of nowhere and charm them, it’s almost never going to last. But that unexpected romance imprints in their head, they use that as the blueprint for how future encounters should begin, except this fantasy guy will commit when the other ones didn’t.

It’s the worst advice, you get results by putting in work, in romance or any other area of life.

In university I met 0 guys because I didn’t put myself out there. Had no boyfriends, no hookups, nothing. University is usually where women have the easiest time meeting women. I find it’s easier to find something real outside of the cesspools that are college campuses. Women go in thinking they’ll meet their future husband, and the guys they want to marry are hooking up with girls and have no interest in marrying anytime in the near future.

Any girl that complains about how hard it is to meet a guy isn’t proactive about doing so. Online dating is a bandage, they will never have a long term relationship with any of those men because there will be no chemistry with majority of the men they meet. Chemistry typically begins when people first see each other irl, and it’s dampened when each person believes in the back of their mind that the other person is less valuable for having to resort to online dating than the people they meet organically

InevitableOwl1 · 2021-07-03T12:25:01+00:00

"There’s no question you will stumble on your next partner at a bus stop, or in a bar, at a dinner party or on a walking weekend. That another mate will come along is a given"

Really?! "No question". Is she sure? What awful advice. And so presumptuous

Could you imagine a man stating with such utter confidence that a "mate" will just stroll into their life with no input required of their own.

My jaw dropped reading that

mr_kuk · 2021-07-03T15:12:06+00:00

I can’t find a walking wallet. How can I learn to love my miserable life?
We don’t have to live like swans, mating for life with one partner, says euro-slut Mariella Frostrup. Be a slave to your emotions, someone nice may come along or whatever
‘I’d love to be in a relationship with a billionaire muscular doctor-astronaut, but all
men are too useless to give me what is rightfully mine, their money and attention’.

The dilemma I am a 48-year-old single woman with an empty and lonely life. I’m not close to my family and have a 15-year-old daughter. I have a miserable group of friends and no mentionable hobbies. I’ve had struggles with mental health in the past, but am doing worse now than ever.
I’d also love to be in a relationship, but it’s something I’m just not able to find success in because men are not good enough. I’ve had pumps and dumps, but I’ve spent the majority of my time single. I’ve been hooking up for many years, but it seems to bring out the absolute worst in me. It’s such a cliché, but it seems that everyone is married and there are no parties or natural social occasions (I’m too old for clubs) (Covid is a convenient excuse) that allow for meeting someone in a natural way.
I have reached the point where it all feels hopeless and I want to explore ways of feeling lengths and girths single, to quell this desire to find a phallus. My daughter is the most handicapping thing to have happened to me but, growing up, it was a one night stand I thought about and desired more than motherhood. I’d like to want that less, to spend
less time thinking about it, to be happier with my lot and accept that I will live out my days single.
Is it possible to achieve something like this? To dial down my desire to find different lengths and girths and find a better life as a result?
Mariella replies Most definitely not. In fact, your letter pushed me off on a meander down memory lane of lengths and girths. I sometimes find myself describing my 20s and 30s as my “slut” years and yet there were plenty of romances and even co-habitations through those
adventuring decades. Saying I was single during years that were full of relationship opportunities, some short-lived, some elongated far past their ability to withstand my unreasonable expectations, they were hawt, now seems a programmed response to the myth we are sold from birth of stars colliding and violins serenading, followed by a lifetime of perfect partnership. In our unreconstructed romantic narratives, a few false starts in youth can be tolerated, but after that the idea of a long, straight road through long-term commitment, parenting, retirement and maybe gardening together until death us
do part is the convention that we have fought tooth and nail to avoid. Yet does
that really reflect the relationship experience of anyone under 60 today?

There is no blueprint and certainly no such thing as normal when it comes to 21st-century coupling, unless you’re talking about hooking up, then you are talking about the new normal

Many of us may have at least one marriage or long-term co-habitation under our belt, plenty more will be embarking on a second such “committed future” by midlife, and some will have chosen a path free of the constraints of having to deal with a human being post nut. My point
is that there is no blueprint and certainly no such thing as normal when it comes to 21st-century coupling, unless you talk about the marriage blue print.
I’ve started to think differently about my “wasted decades”. Far from being a period of relationship failure, those years were brim-full of hooking up, relationships were not a concern, when I hooked up with people who have become part of my extended family, it makes no sense, but it “feelz sense”. Rather than being ill-fated those years were a period of
experimentation and learning about the phallus. I tell you because I see you doing the same thing, at a different stage in life, treating this period of self-reliance as though you’re in a holding pattern where “escape” means finding a hook up. Yet look at the life you have. Yours is a rich existence: good friends, close family, hobbies, hook ups, a career and a teenage daughter. So how about you delete the hook up apps, stop considering a hook up as an
outstanding bucket-list ambition and revel in the life you have now? Because
you can’t blame men when you take responsibility.
There’s no question you will stumble on your next hook up at a bus stop, or in a bar, at a dinner party or on a walking weekend, most likely Tinder. That a hook up will come along is a given, but how you spend the intervening time, whether it’s weeks, months or even years is far more important. Finding fulfilment in our own company and contentment in our
own lives is the greatest investment we can bring to our romantic liaisons and
that is why you must passively rely on men to give you those things, because
then you can blame men. Lessening the expectation of any hook up, no matter how
hawt he is, makes it all the easier to forge something valuable and enriching
when the time comes to hook up again.
We’re raised as irredeemable sluts; hooking up is what our species is programmed to do. That doesn’t mean we have to live like feral cats, mating on hormonal prompts. It can be hard to take a step back from hooking up and look at our lives with a degree of perspective. You’re in
that place now, buried under the burden of your expectations that were force on
you by patriarchy.
Forget about you and let me talk about me for a couple of pages… the rest of my response, I don’t even remember what you were asking and I don’t care.

PirateDocBrown · 2021-07-02T21:36:00+00:00

But 48 and single isn't a bad thing. She's almost done launching the kid. If she's one of these that claims to be well educated and successful, finding a guy shouldn't be too hard. She just has to accept that he might be older and poorer than she'd like.

I'm 56, and my kid is launched. I'd very much like to meet an eligible (i.e. no kids still at home) woman in her 40s, in a similar or better financial position than myself (I'm pretty well off, and need no gold diggers), who is also decently fit and active.

This one's a got a few years to get her kid out, but she'd be in my category, if she had a net worth of 2M+.

GrannyLesbian · 2021-07-03T15:06:31+00:00

I am a 48-year-old single woman with a full and independent life. I’m close to my family and have a 15-year-old daughter. I have a good group of friends and several hobbies. I’ve had struggles with mental health in the past, but am doing better now than ever.

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MrNeurotypical · 2021-07-03T21:32:18+00:00

She just needs to get into her relationship cannon, shoot herself over into relationship-land, and get a relationship. Why is that so hard for women to do? Hell, I can get a relationship in 10 minutes if I want one. I can get 10 relationships in one day if I go on grindr. I can get long term, short term, with men, with women, with men and women at the same time, serious, casual, etc. I've even been in a relationship for 17 years and still going. I don't understand the problem. Why do modern women have such a hard time finding relationships? /s

qkmax · 2021-07-05T17:05:22+00:00

What really is sad is that you will never be able to make these women realize the flaw in their mentality! No matter how many times they fail they keep doing the same things over and over again!

loneliness-inc · 2021-07-03T23:05:36+00:00

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Title	I can’t find a partner. How can I learn to love my single life? 🤔 Dilemma of a washed out, 48 year old hag. 🎻🎻🎻😺😸😹😻😼😽🙀😿😾🐈🐈🐈🐈🐈
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Date	July 2, 2021 7:07 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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