I find online dating during the pandemic difficult. My friend just sa…

HolyGourdofJerusalem · 2021-04-04T15:47:18+00:00

What a garbage article, not surprising coming from The Toronto Star (known jokingly among rational Canadians as "The Red Star" due to their fascination with collectivist and ultra-woke politics).

This line is particularly egregious:

"...some traditional gender stereotypes such as men seeking younger women, still remain. "

It's called biology.

It isn't a stereotype.

Men are, and always will be, attracted to younger women.

This is why women have done themselves a huge disservice by thinking "they can have it all". By the time they have obtained their degrees and built their careers (things most men could care less about) they have lost what men value the most...their youth and beauty and fertility.

Whoops!

billdehaan2 · 2021-04-04T16:59:03+00:00

some traditional gender stereotypes such as men seeking younger women, still remain

Yeah, that's for a reason. That reason being that it's true.

I saw an interview with one of these dating coaches/matchmaker/relationship therapist types a while back. She basically said to hell with it, she was getting out of the business, and was venting about why she was leaving.

The reason? "The women are too damned picky, and they're impossible to please".

She was happily married, and she listed three single guys that she was embarrassed to admit were actually higher value men than her husband was. She was very clear that she loved her husband and had no personal interest in these guys, but as a professional opinion, these men she represented were honestly better husband material than her own husband was.

"It's like they took Jim, who's a great husband and fantastic father, made him three inches taller, had him work out to get into shape, and gave him a six figure income!". She figured she'd have no trouble matching up these guys.

Not one of the three guys got a second date in six months. And when she interviewed the women, they all gave the silliest, pettiest reasons for dismissing him. One guy wore a tie that didn't match the jacket he wore to the date. One complained that none of the guys were vegan. One guy was dismissed by one girl for being too religious, and a second one dismissed him because he wasn't religious enough.

The coach summarized it by saying that if she'd had the expectations most of her female clients had, she'd never have gotten married, and she realized none of them ever will. So since there was no point to it, she figured it was a waste of time, and she got out of it.

butt_uglee · 2021-04-04T15:50:01+00:00

“I’m a single female, 31, who’s been dating online since my mid-20s and had a lot of fun”

Can anyone translate this for me? I’ve never seen this phrasing before.... I’ve had my fun... and now... I just can’t seem to place it. Seems vaguely familiar... almost like an NPC response

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The pandemic is a lame excuse. I found a LTR in September at the height of this crap-fest.

panzer22222 · 2021-04-04T15:49:53+00:00

It backs up the point that being “picky,” like the client mentioned, means not having the confidence to give a “good” man who interested her and made her laugh, a second date despite his beard and truck (both of which aren’t necessarily permanent).

Great advice, meets the perfect guy...but doesnt like the beard and his truck..he can get rid of them to make her happy...

socalskweez · 2021-04-04T15:56:16+00:00

She should listen to her friend. Therapy is needed to overcome her irrational belief that who she wants, the top 10%, will go for her. 31 and only one serious relationship is a red flag

heatspirit · 2021-04-04T17:13:29+00:00

She’s “had a lot of fun” and now is ready to settle down 🤣

HolyGourdofJerusalem · 2021-04-04T17:53:01+00:00

Toronto star, feel free to ignore and assume the opposite of anything they say is true

2021-04-04T17:41:06+00:00

but I also find there are so many males online who just don’t appeal to my taste.

nice extra piece of evidence for the "alpha widowed" theory, that women with high n-counts have higher standards than women with low n-count

NetherIndy · 2021-04-04T20:36:49+00:00

It's the most amazing and counter-productive thing. As their appeal retreats, as their options narrow... they get MORE picky. Not less. A market failure if there ever was one.

At 30 (and more so 35), they're looking for the whole package. If he doesn't make 6 figures by 35, he's never going to (and that's more or less true). But, he's got to be better than the rose-tinted memories of the two dozen guys before him.

Mundane_Worldliness7 · 2021-04-04T16:21:32+00:00

“I’ve learned that life is not one long meme of female exploitation, Chad won’t see me, he’s fucking younger versions of me. Do I have any recourse?”

GrannyLesbian · 2021-04-04T17:21:12+00:00

He drove a truck and had a beard.

What a fucking looser?!

What man has a beard and drives a truck?!

Martellus732 · 2021-04-04T18:50:45+00:00

Typical fefail, won't learn from her mistakes or improve her situation.

Keep being picky, those homeless cats aren't going to adopt themselves and your antidepressants aren't going to go down without your discount boxed-wine.

onewaydive · 2021-04-04T15:50:02+00:00

This lady looks like the witch from hocus pocus.

I've said it before and I'll say it again "go away lady"

wathon2 · 2021-04-05T05:53:36+00:00

Her friend is right, any woman that can't find a man in today world has got to be picky (relative to what she brings to the table).

Every woman can get a man on her SMV or below. FACT!! Women benefit from both the supply and the demand side of the dating market. There is an ocean of thirsty men out there.

Their misery is self inflicted from chasing after the top 20% Chads. So no sympathy here.

aucran · 2021-04-04T19:24:08+00:00

Is that image of the 31 year old woman? None of the 30 year old woman I know look that old.

callmejohny · 2021-04-04T20:41:03+00:00

Christ, that photograph was all I needed to read

devok1 · 2021-04-05T00:21:26+00:00

That a fucking rough 31 , the turkey neck is quite something.🦃

ronoda12 · 2021-04-05T04:27:08+00:00

Why would any man want STD and DNA infested used up post wall woman?

mr_kuk · 2021-04-05T08:35:03+00:00

Q: I want to be a slut and be treated like a lady.

A: Buy my shit!

DrDog09 · 2021-04-05T13:03:21+00:00

I notice that there is no mention of a LTR in the thought process. All this person is complaining about is that her mooching allowance is dwindling. That type of woman needs to realize that mooching peaks at around 23-24. After that it fades off till it is just a crumb here or there.

BluepillProfessor · 2021-04-06T20:01:30+00:00

Her comments about coaching are true. We challenge the client much more than therapists. I once told a lonely hearts guy don't schedule another session until you have approached 5 random women and had a 1 minute conversation with them. He never called back but emailed me months later that he was good now and had scored a short term fling with his 3rd conversation and now had a GF. A therapist would have spent months exploring why he whines like a bitch but refuses to take action instead of just telling him: Dude, go out there and grab the world by the pussy and squeeze that fucker until she gives up.

marcmil1 · 2021-04-04T23:25:31+00:00

Who is the guy in the pic of this article?!?

YahuwEL2024 · 2021-04-04T23:42:59+00:00

'I find so many men who don't interest me'- case closed loool

TheApricotCavalier · 2021-04-05T03:31:35+00:00

> I’m a single female, 31, who’s been dating online since my mid-20s and had a lot of fun.

ahahaha, I was worried they were getting too self aware. This article is an instant classic.

> ome traditional gender stereotypes such as men seeking younger women, still remain. (Cognitive psychologists from the Universities of Lincoln and Swansea had studied 120,000 dating profiles in partnership with dating site eHarmony for their report).

You can fund all the studies you want, wont change the fact that your getting older

Wonderful-Meeting639 · 2021-04-05T10:45:40+00:00

is hard dating for a corpse .

not a lot a necrophlics

incarnate1 · 2021-04-05T20:14:38+00:00

"..she wasn’t interested in seeing him again because he had a beard and drove a truck"

What in the actual fuck?

Title	I find online dating during the pandemic difficult. My friend just sa…
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Date	April 4, 2021 3:27 PM UTC (3 years ago)
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