Whenever women's N and the associated problems with women are discussed, invariably the cry goes up:

What is your problem with women sleeping with a lot of men? So what that she sleeps with lots of guys? WHO HURT YOU? THIS IS JUST BECAUSE THEY WON'T FUCK YOU, RIGHT? BITTER SMALL DICKED LOSER WHO CAN'T GET LAID!!1!1!!

Calm down, ladies.

It's not the N. It's not the fact that you fucked a lot of guys. It's not the fact that you had a lot of sex with those guys.

It's the problems you have that caused you to fuck a lot of guys, that caused your relationships to fail, and that caused your dysfunctional relationships with your own sexuality.


There's a strong direct relationship between N and relationship problems in and with women. Higher the N, the greater the chance that this woman has issues internal and external that make her a bad bet for relationship.

There's also a strong correlation between N and dysfunction in women. This appears peculiar to women. Men, not so much. The higher the N, she's more dysfunctional. It's more likely the dysfunction caused the N, rather than the other way around.

High N promiscuous women usually have some kind of mental or emotional pathology directly causing and contributing to it. Guess who gets to deal with those problems? Yes, that's right. Boyfriend/husband. Boyfriend usually bails. But if boyfriend becomes husband, he now gets burdened with those problems.

Because of those problems, she:

--can't get sexually attracted to the guy she picks/who picks her

--develops all sorts of sexual hangups and dysfunctions

--constantly sabotages and torpedoes her relationships with men

--acts like a bitch, which repels men and trashes her value for anything other than fast sex

--shows all sorts of mental and emotional dysfunctions. Depression, addiction, alcoholism, borderline personality disorder.

It's not the N or the sex that causes the problems. It's the dysfunctions.

It's also about her attitude toward sex and her own sexuality. What does sex mean to this woman? What is it for? Why does she have it? Is it something that's mutually beneficial you do for fun with someone you at least like a whole bunch, or is it a tool you use? Is it something you "share" with a man you love; or is it a stick-and-carrot system you use for rewards and punishments?

Is sex something you enjoy; or is it something you just dole out to manipulate men into doing what you want/not doing things you don't want?

Is sex something you look forward to with men; or is it something to be avoided because of your past bad experiences or because you had to settle for a man you're not sexually attracted to?

Is sex something you like, or is it just an implement you use for your own ends? A sword for attack, a shield for defense, a tool to manipulate?

The kinds of men she has sex with say a lot about her. Like it or not, ladies, who you let into your pussies speaks volumes about you. The kinds of men you have fucked, and who you fuck now, tell me

--your opinion of yourself

--your overall character

--the kinds of men you like and are sexually attracted to. Your "type".

--why you have sex with these men

--your relationship to your own sexuality

--the overall importance sex has in your life and the role sex plays in your life

This, despite anything you say about any of these things. Because your words matter much less than what (and who) you actually do and have done.

So it's not the number, it's not sleeping with lots of dudes, and it's not the sex. It's a whole host of other things that the N, the men, and the sex and kinds of sex tell us about you.