Sexual chemistry? Or am I so blown out that I can't even muster up my own ass out of the friend-zone?

loneliness-inc · 2021-05-16T05:24:25+00:00

It isn't him personally to whom she isn't attracted, it's his type.

Land_of_the_Losers · 2021-05-15T09:26:43+00:00

If you're "not sure" if you're attracted to him, then you're not.

Never settle, darling! There is no man on earth who is good enough for you!1 You are magnificent beyond the boundaries of space and time and every molecule therein!

ZookeepergameWorth71 · 2021-05-15T09:05:49+00:00

What I've got from this one is a huge list of why said man should be perfect , but is not.

Error, Error , Error: Bad boy not detected.

Please insert the thug D for tingles.

NickTesla2018 · 2021-05-15T11:09:49+00:00

"Tall" is her first item on the list. Wow, that's surprising.

SnuSnuClownWorld · 2021-05-15T08:54:20+00:00

For so many women, everything still isn't enough.

That and she totally fucked her pair bonding ability.

AurelianWay · 2021-05-15T11:31:13+00:00

Unbelievable, she pretty much just described a 99 / 100 man. I get he doesn't push her arousal buttons but surely the other dozens of A1 qualities he does possess should be enough.

If I was gay, I would try to marry the guy described in her post. He sounds incredible.

Joaquino7997 · 2021-05-15T09:38:35+00:00

Women who are THIS long-winded aren't worth the time, energy nor effort. Why? Because clearly they can talk themselves out of doing anything - even if that means boring the other person to tears with their incessant babbling.

CuriousIncel2 · 2021-05-15T10:34:34+00:00

Women like this want a broken man they can try to fix. So they can play the game over and over again

My ex was abusive

HeftyAdministration8 · 2021-05-15T11:52:39+00:00

he's like my twin brother

BAM The relationship is dead.

I've known him for 9+ years

Stop leading him on. You've used him for favors long enough.

The top comment is actually good advice: "throw him back for someone who is into him."

evergreen35 · 2021-05-15T11:08:27+00:00

She gets tingles from high-school dropout thugs with neck-tattoos, Not quality men like this.

Logic is telling her hamster-brain that he is a good catch, but no tingles-a-tingling in her retarded malware-infected walmart computer.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2021-05-15T11:50:24+00:00

Massive description laying out the massive # of positive traits the guy posseses.

"I'm really not sure if I'm attracted to him or not."

Translation: I think I can do better.

Stripotle_Grill · 2021-05-15T12:20:43+00:00

She wrote a 1000 word essay and the last line is I'm not sure if i'm attracted to him or not. I feel like I got trolled.

imdaad_khan · 2021-05-15T12:50:53+00:00

Her future - Get a dog, die alone.

Autisticus · 2021-05-15T12:56:45+00:00

EVEN WHEN Cinderella finds her Slipper in 2021, she's not sure if she should keep it!

Gentlemen, dating is a rigged game. Don't even bother

Also, here's a totally random article about nothing at all related to this subject: https://www.lotuseaters.com/research-finds-53-of-white-liberal-women-have-been-diagnosed-with-mental-14-05-21

donotvotemedown · 2021-05-15T12:20:09+00:00

She doesn’t know what she wants and I bet the lack of chemistry is mutual. She should keep looking and let him find someone who enhances HIS life the way he enhances hers.

trpblacklime · 2021-05-15T19:19:40+00:00

Nothing dries pussy up faster than beta behaviour and tendencies. This man is living proof. If he had a strong frame and treated her like the plain jane fleshlight that she is she'd be wet.

Demiansky · 2021-05-15T13:49:41+00:00

Yep, the problem is almost certainly that he's treated her with too much respect and interest, so her attraction instinct doesn't kick in because obviously only men that are beneath her would be interested in her. If men DON'T treat her well, then it's because they are above her, so naturally those are the ones she is attracted to.

If there's anything I've learned from every romantic comedy or romance novel I've ever seen, there's gotta be tons of turmoil and chaos in the plot before that passion carries you away! Where is the turmoil?! So naturally, if only she could find a man that had all of those perfect, stable, calm characteristics, but with tons and tons of emotional upheaval involved to REALLY get the hormones going, then she'd finally have the man she always wanted! And then you can settle someplace where the climate is hot and cold all at the exact same moment.

thewhiskey_zulu · 2021-05-15T12:58:21+00:00

I think vertical horizon had a son about this. But seriously this is literally a girl sleeping next to super man and thinking "I can do better".

JustLurkinOrWhatever · 2021-05-15T13:38:33+00:00

there's clearly no sexual attraction if it takes nine years of knowing someone. the friendzoned guy could be the most perfect person, but if there isn't arousal for her, it's over for him. hope he finds someone better.

ltde5150 · 2021-05-15T15:26:00+00:00

I don't care how much of a Chad someone is; if you've known them for a decade (romantically or not), you're not going to get the same tingles as you would from Harley McBadBoy that you just met.

unified_masking_tape · 2021-05-15T15:58:51+00:00

Being long distance is probably amplifying her sense of his good qualities. Unattainability is always a positive trait for men. It's better to be unattainable because you have a high SMV and have options, but distance or circumstances can sometimes do the trick. Being unattainable due to distance at least shows that you won't bail on your life to instantly move to the the girl's area, which many thirsty beta males actually would do.

She's already not attracted to this guy on a deep primal level, she says it herself. As soon as she settles down with him the positive traits she lists will become less romanticized and more annoying.

"Jesus Carl, why are you going to give blood again!? You always abandon me for this shit, we never spend time together!!!"

"Uh... we spent the last 6 days straight together. I literally haven't seen another human being for 6 days."

"You and your stupid blood thing, I hate these excuses. It's like you care more about giving blood than you care about me, I need you today."

"Ok, I can spend the day with you then I guess."

<6 weeks later>

"I feel like we've grown apart. You're not the man I first met anymore."

Neldot · 2021-05-15T20:45:18+00:00

Darling, leave alone this poor guy if you are "not sure", he will find better. Instead, let's begin thinking of the arrangements needed in your home to host the incoming cats. A wine chiller will be useful too.

meerita · 2021-05-15T21:12:19+00:00

Man… reading that just blew me up the entire head. She is like describing the literal god but at the end, she is not so sure. Again this proves women love jerks because agreeable men are unattractive, even if those men are 6ft tall, handsome, etc.

SylvestorTalone · 2021-05-15T23:30:31+00:00

Typical woman nonsense. I'd consider marrying that guy and I'm a straight man.

What's that line from Jhin? ''Perfection isn't good enough''.

Typo-MAGAshiv · 2021-05-15T16:01:52+00:00

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Natriumzyanid · 2021-05-15T18:26:48+00:00

She will have sad, very sad memories when she is old!

DeeplyDisturbed1 · 2021-05-16T01:57:07+00:00

I am usually the type of person...

"Then that you shall remain until we meet again"

ogrilla99 · 2021-05-16T20:16:57+00:00

This is the exact reason why I have a 3-date escalation rule: if a woman isn't sexually attracted to you from the beginning, she never will be. She might find a way to convince herself to have sex with you (because she needs a beta bux), or find many of your other traits desirable, but she'll never actually desire to have sex with you.

This is a classic friendzone. And this is a great example of what we say: once in the friendzone, always in the friendzone. Making the leap to be her boyfriend is exceedingly difficult once they've friendzoned you. It's far, far easier to find a new woman who might have a fresh first impression of you. This girl has known this guy for 9 years, and despite the fact that in those years, he's transformed himself into a rich, hunky guy, her initial impression of him as a shy, nerdy college freshman never goes away. Why do I know he transformed? Because if he was a Chad in University, she'd have fucked him then. And if he was a nerd then and stayed a nerd, she wouldn't be dating him now. Her problem is that she friendzoned the college-version of him, and can't get her head to un-friendzone him now that he's a desirable guy.

The guy would do better to realize that if she didn't have sex with him for years after knowing him, then even the perfunctory sex she's giving him now is just obligatory sex. She will never desire him sexually, and that's an important part of keeping a long term relationship going. He should break it off with her, and find another woman who is actually turned on by his qualities.

Balefirez · 2021-05-17T05:08:03+00:00

It’s times like this that I wish I could find the guy and show him that this is the girl you are dating. She thinks you are perfect and that’s still not good enough for her. Women today have a mental disorder.

TheJerkTit · 2021-05-15T22:50:47+00:00

I wanted him at the end of all that!

washerelastweek · 2021-05-16T11:04:11+00:00

"i'd like to have a boyfriend like you someday

redditradishman · 2021-05-16T20:38:20+00:00

Since he supposedly screens out these harpies, hopefully he's been doing his homework with this one. Though she'll likely dump him in favor of the usual suspects soon enough.

Loud-Bottle-7879 · 2021-05-17T12:01:59+00:00

Key takeaway, if she didn’t like him 9 years ago, why would she like him now? You’re the same person mostly, only thing that probably significantly changed is resources/physique. He needs to leave it alone! It’s not that they now know what is important in life or any of that other bs they will say, it’s that options 1-60 (conservative estimates) didn’t work out and it’s time to go back to the fallout plan. Don’t fall for it!

No_Sign_1264 · 2021-05-21T23:35:50+00:00

thats a really long winded way of saying he has a small peepee

Harry_Teak · 2021-05-27T05:29:13+00:00

She fucked up. She got to know him so well that she can't project whatever Prince Chadling fantasy man she keeps in her head on to him. He's probably never shanked anyone in prison either.

Title	Sexual chemistry? Or am I so blown out that I can't even muster up my own ass out of the friend-zone?
Author	Blogginginvicecity
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Date	May 15, 2021 8:43 AM UTC (2 years ago)
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