Why won't Chad commit? Why is it impossible to find Prince Charming? Because we're just too incredibly amazing

shrinkshooter · 2019-04-20T06:34:04+00:00

You’d think that being an all-around awesome person would make it easier to find a great guy to be with, but the opposite is often true.

Bull. Shit.

But instead of doing everything they can to make you fall in love with them, a lot of guys won’t even make the effort to ask you out.

If you're a hot chick, the men who approach you already know they're close to your league, or they're simply drunk. You don't want the guys who don't approach you to actually approach you as if you might accept their advances, you want all their attention and validation. They don't approach because they know the score, and that score won't change by throwing rejection cannon fodder at you, it will do nothing but blow your massive ego even more out of proportion.

Truly awesome women are often a mixture of a lot of things, and the result can be a bit overwhelming for some guys. It’s like when you combine a bunch of colored beams of light and end up with something blindingly white, and honestly, even a lot of great men can’t handle that kind of brilliance.

You see what I mean? Egotistical backpatting and masturbatory self assurances. If I asked you "what do you bring to the table in a relationship," I'm certain your answers would fall laughably short of anything worthwhile. If guys "can't" handle you, it's not because of your "brilliance." What do you offer? Fleeting beauty of youth? Properly lubricated orifices? The boilerplate Tinder profile diatribe of shit like "I'm funny, and smart, and I like food and music, and I like to watch movies..."?

The truly worthwhile girls don't need to tell themselves they're worthwhile, the actions of those who care about them say enough.

You probably — no — definitely could’ve found a boyfriend right now if you’d been willing to lower your expectations

Tada! Wew, who could possibly have seen this coming? You see how this might kinda sorta maybe conflict with the whole "why don't more guys approach me more often" complaint? Thanks for confirming I was correct: you don't want more guys to hit on you to have more choices, you want the attention and you'll still reject all the men who otherwise wouldn't have bothered.

You’re great enough to deserve the man of your dreams, and you’re smart enough to know that settling for anything less than that would be a disservice to yourself. Unfortunately, that usually means you’re going to be waiting a pretty long time.

Indeed. Like, eighty years. Don't worry, maybe if you can even hold out for an entire century, that unicorn you deserve will trot right out of a rainbow's fart and everything will be grand.

Your confidence is intimidating. You’re not full of yourself, but you know that you’re pretty darn great. You walk through life with the mindset that nothing and no one will tear you down or make you feel inferior, and unfortunately, that’s enough to scare some guys away. The good news, though, is that you don’t want a guy who can’t handle a confident woman anyway.

That's some real sour grapes vibes right there. Leaving that aside though, real men aren't "intimidated," they're simply realistic. Sure, it can be concerning to some guys worrying about rejection, but that's not "intimidation," which is a super easy word to throw around as a woman whose sole strategy is to look as good as possible and wait for the fish to bite the bait. You know what's really intimidating?

That wall. Man, look at that thing, it is moving. Look at the size of it and how quickly the distance to it is shrinking. Jesus, whatever smacks into that thing is going to be destroyed.

You’re not scared of being alone.

Well hot damn, that's super fortunate, isn't it?

Truly awesome women have their act together, and they know what they want out of both life and love. You’d think that this would HELP you find the right man, but instead, it often proves to be an obstacle.

An obstacle of your own creation because of your hypergamy. None of this is the fault of men. You only want guys "you deserve," and because you forwent LTRs and kids and focused on your career and money, you think you deserve better than what you would have otherwise thought, because you have a career and money. You shrank your own dating pool because "you know what you want" and "you refuse to settle."

The great thing about being amazing is that a lot of people can see what a catch you are. The not-so-great thing is that a lot of those people aren’t really the kind you want to attract. While you might have some genuinely wonderful guys who want to date you, you’ll also have a lot of terrible ones thrown into the mix… but you might not realize just how bad they are until it’s too late.

See? Even when you chase Chad it's not your fucking fault. Did these bad boys hunt you down and rape you? No. Did you have the last word, the ultimate say, in whether anything happened between you? Yes. It isn't that you couldn't see the warning signs about him, you just didn't give a shit because he gave you the tingles. "I had no way of knowing" is ridiculous hamstering, these guys wear the reality of who they are on their sleeves, and you come running and stumbling to get to us anyway. If you didn't, a lot of us wouldn't be like this, but oh well! Use the bait that gets bites, just don't blame the fisherman when he lands a hook in your cheek because you bit it.

Once you do get into a relationship, your forgiving nature is usually a large part of what helps it last for so long. Your patience is part of what makes you such a beautiful person and friend, but it can end up screwing you over if you’re not careful.

Chasing Chad, waiting for him to commit to a hot chick who banged him the first night they met. Yeah, it's really your patience keeping the "relationship" together. That reminds me, where have all the good men gone? I don't see any around here.

You’ve probably found yourself in a few situations where a guy kept screwing up, but you kept giving him second, third, and fourth chances. It wasn’t that you were settling — you just know that people make mistakes. The problem always comes in when you tolerate the wrong guy longer than you should and miss out on someone better as a result.

No, the next guy is going to be just the same deal, because you're choosing the same kinds of guys. Don't worry, once you get knocked up and you're single and 33 with a toddler, you'll be forced to reckon with the horrifying prospect of dating within your league.

You’re not the type to just sit at home and wait for the man of your dreams to come sweep you off your feet.

...right, that's why you go out of your way to hit on guys, yeah? No? You want all the males in the building to lay their attention on your altar and then determine which offerings are acceptable? Don't pretend that "sitting at home waiting for the man of your dreams" is any different than "sitting at the bar waiting for the man of your dreams," the only difference is the number of people and the metric tonnage of makeup in storage on your face.

You’re generous in just about every aspect of your life, but not everyone is so eager to give their relationships their all.

Absolutely, you're so amazing in every way that you'd even make the perfect girlfriend! Isn't it crazy how you aren't getting the attention you deserve? I mean you're hot, you're young, you like food and music and movies, you're funny, you're smart...I mean come on, really, how many other girls could honestly say that?!

lorem6300118 · 2019-04-20T11:30:02+00:00

I am diabetic because

I keep attracting skittles into my mouth daily.

I am too awesome for insulin.

Men are too intimidated by my awesome gangrene.

smallSackBigShaft · 2019-04-20T10:03:14+00:00

Can you imagine if I walked around telling people “I’m an awesome person” and be completely serious about it, without kidding or being sarcastic? Even if I believed I was one, how pathetic would I have to be to go around telling people about it? There’s a difference between self esteem and a diseased overinflated ego.

One thing I have noticed as a flaw in my own personality is my huge fucking ego, and it’s literally the cause of most of my problems in day to day affairs. Fortunately, life has stretched my asshole and fucked it loose and allowed me to put it in check and know that I’m not as powerful as I thought I was, and control lies in a higher power.

Anyways, I’m trying to make the point that women like these have never been checked and put into place by men or life. So they walk around deluded, thinking their “awesome peepaz” when in fact they probably have a shit job/mediocre job with a “corporate sounding title”, no friends (other than the ones on social media), shit car/no car, and a deep feeling of sadness or insecurity (masked with well-staged “caught in the moment” laughing pictures on Instagram drinking mimosas).

Chiliresident · 2019-04-20T10:54:47+00:00

Modern women are in no way shape or form generous. They’re leeches. They don’t have awesome lives. They drift along until some guy offers to entertain her for a while in exchange for the use of her body. Otherwise, her face is in her phone 24/7 when she isn’t working on some spreadsheet in her cubicle “awesome amazing” job. Modern women have zero amazing qualities. They waste away their best years partying and hooking up until it burns them out. Then they write articles like this projecting their delusions about what they wish their life was like.

 “A lot to handle” the amount of BS a man will put up for a woman is in direct proportion to her looks and age. The bitchy routine has a short shelf life “Don’t mind being alone” - women dread this later in life, they know they need a man to guide them and being alone later in life signals failure to the female despite feminists bleating about how “empowering” it is, TL;DR this is a pep talk for post wall women who have failed at life.

KingOfPomerania · 2019-04-20T10:16:02+00:00

Another article loaded with entitlement and refusal to be introspective. Quelle surprise!

[deleted] · 2019-04-20T12:14:58+00:00

Would rather play video games and get a hooker than deal with the women describing herself in this article. I am repulsed by her stuck-up attitude, which is all too common place for millennial women. I am going to go out on a limb and guess she is fat too, since most modern women are.

Source: Tried dating millennial women for a long time, realized that video games and hookers were better in every way.

lorem6300118 · 2019-04-20T11:48:46+00:00

This article, which I swear could have been written by AI, proposes no actual solutions to the “problems” it ostensibly illuminates.

Were I a woman sincerely trying to date more, this article would have only confused me.

An actually helpful article would offer two solutions:

Stop smoking, staying out at the bar all night, drink more water, consult with a nutritionist, wear spanx, dye your hair, look people’s the eye, have proper posture.
Do absolutely none of these, but be pleasant and normal. Agree to all date offers from non creepy or scary men, show up to the date without a million texts after saying yes, and don’t talk 99% of the time on the first date.

In my blue pill days I only asked for the second: zero requirements about height, weight, education, career, or any criteria.

That was too much to ask for, and the only thing left for society is thinkpieces wondering why men don’t approach.

beatles-lover · 2019-04-20T13:12:53+00:00

Imagine if the sexes were reversed. An article in a men's publication telling men that they are so awesome and desirable that they are having trouble attracting women. Of course such an article would be completely ridiculed and rightly so.

PG_Chodehouse · 2019-04-20T14:40:59+00:00

What do these people do every day that makes their “confidence” “intimidating”?

notyourdude201 · 2019-04-20T14:29:24+00:00

Ladies, stop fucking bullshitting yourself. Your shit smells so bad people can smell it before you even poop in the toilet.

If men refuse to commit to you, you are NOT amazing. You have a nasty personality and that makes you zero relationship value to men.

Even the most non-committing of men out there have an idea in their minds of the type of women they don't mind committing to, and it has nothing to do with your oral skills, or your boobs, or your ass, or anything that has to do with sex.

Nor that it has to do with your ability to insult, ridicule and talk down men which you call 'sarcasm' and 'cool'.

You can't even have a normal conversation like men do with other men, and you want to be men's lovers. Get a fucking grip.

LibertyBaron · 2019-04-20T13:00:18+00:00

We need a remake of "pretty woman" but with a 30 year old thot who is a 5, with several interracial kids, is also obese, is heavy in debt, thinks a HS degree counts as "education" and she is independent because she collects government money without help (by her own!!). The rich guy would teach boys how to be a real men.

keithrockz · 2019-04-20T23:56:43+00:00

This woman sees herself as a unicorn....I see her for what she truly is based off her words....a donkey with empty paper towel roll duct taped to the top of her head

SilverGryphon · 2019-04-20T19:09:56+00:00

You’re great enough to deserve the man of your dreams, and you’re smart enough to know that settling for anything less than that would be a disservice to yourself. Unfortunately, that usually means you’re going to be waiting a pretty long time.

And yet men are expected to fall in love with the first woman who sets her eyes on him regardless of her weight, age and kids. Give me a break will ya ladies.

Tailtappin · 2019-04-22T21:26:32+00:00

This is just something women do. They always tell each other how awesome they are. They love to pat themselves on the back for even the most menial things.

"Are you single despite being such an awesome catch? Well! The reason you're single isn't you, it's HIM! That low life doesn't understand how valuable you are!"

See, we teach little girls this shit and then act surprised when they get unrealistic ideas about the opposite sex.

Just as men didn't know what the fuck to do when women decided they didn't like the old social contract, the women presented here in this sub represent the tip of the spear regarding women who are reaping the fruits their feminist sisters planted long ago.

"So, let me get this straight...you think you can shame me into paying for the kids of the guy you dumped me in favor of? What universe are you living in and is the air made of meth there or something?"

Overkillengine · 2019-04-21T07:54:51+00:00

Written like a roastie that refuses to realize that her years of experience on the carousel do not make her a good relationship prospect.

Not all experience is equal. A decade+ experience of being a CC rider means that they are near guaranteed to be set in their ways of inflated expectations, toxic narcissism, and Chad chasing. None of those are bullet points on a "would make a good wife" resume.

But they are bullet points on Chad's job posting for fuck and chuck temp work.

Rick_OShay1 · 2019-04-21T12:08:07+00:00

"Being strong is like being a lady; if you have to tell people you are, you aren't." -Margaret Thatcher.

anon_likes_tendies · 2019-04-21T16:20:28+00:00

It’s not that they don’t think you’re amazing — they just think you’re TOO amazing to even consider them as potential partners.

What does this even mean? This makes as much sense as thinking Kim Kardashian is TOO smart to work at NASA.

t’s like when you combine a bunch of colored beams of light and end up with something blindingly white, and honestly, even a lot of great men can’t handle that kind of brilliance.

That's called an epileptic seizure. Any men interested in epilepsy?

You probably — no — definitely could’ve found a boyfriend right now if you’d been willing to lower your expectations, but you hold yourself and your partners to higher standards than that.

Sure. But at the same time men are just supposed to accept you as your are, your 30 to 50 previous partner count, your STD doesn't describe you, blah blah blah blah blah blah

You walk through life with the mindset that nothing and no one will tear you down or make you feel inferior, and unfortunately, that’s enough to scare some guys away. The good news, though, is that you don’t want a guy who can’t handle a confident woman anyway.

Confidence is sexy. Entitlement, arrogance and infantile egomania is not sexy.

You may have your fingers crossed that you’ll find a decent man one day, but until then, you can take care of yourself just fine.

decent? That's a step down from not settling for anything less than perfect three paragraphs ago. Keep lowering the bar.

You’d think that this would HELP you find the right man, but instead, it often proves to be an obstacle. Sometimes, you’re so dead-set on finding a guy with the right qualities that you completely overlook decent men who might not tick off all your boxes. You don’t have to lower your standards to find love, but opening your mind a little might help.

Um, what happened to not settling for shit? I'm lost.

The great thing about being amazing is that a lot of people can see what a catch you are. The not-so-great thing is that a lot of those people aren’t really the kind you want to attract. While you might have some genuinely wonderful guys who want to date you, you’ll also have a lot of terrible ones thrown into the mix… but you might not realize just how bad they are until it’s too late.

In which you'll be 30, single with at least one kid, asking where are the good men?

You’ve probably found yourself in a few situations where a guy kept screwing up, but you kept giving him second, third, and fourth chances.

If he's super duper hot and gives the tingles.

The problem always comes in when you tolerate the wrong guy longer than you should and miss out on someone better as a result.

This describes 95% of women in their 20's.

You’re driven in your career, hobbies, and social life.

Highway ends at milemarker 35 sweetheart.

You’ll find the guy you deserve eventually, but it just might take a little longer than it would for someone who wasn’t as great as you.

You'll find your beta orbiter once you lower your standards to mediocrity that will tolerate your DOT safety check sheet of diva demands.

playitagainzak_ · 2019-04-22T02:17:30+00:00

Bolde is a satire site...

Stahlboden · 2019-04-22T09:58:19+00:00

The female equivalent of "M'ladies are just intimidated by my vast intelligence and pony sexdoll collection".

oh_no_aliens · 2019-04-22T22:29:29+00:00

stop writing drivel you stupid cunts and quit being a picky bitch how about that.

devok1 · 2019-04-23T06:47:16+00:00

Their ego is more inflated than the Venuzuelian currency.

Title	Why won't Chad commit? Why is it impossible to find Prince Charming? Because we're just too incredibly amazing
Author	shrinkshooter
Upvotes	121
Comments	31
Date	April 20, 2019 5:57 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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