Wife and Mother of 2 Seeks to "Find Herself", by "Opening Up the Relationship".

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-23T17:57:00+00:00

SirKolbath · 2018-06-23T18:09:44+00:00

If he's her "number one" then she doesn't need a number two.

I explained this to my (ex) wife in this manner: "Go ahead. I won't be here when you return."

This man is a fool to tolerate this. He's literally paying the bills for her whoring.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-23T18:09:13+00:00

but is still very much adamant that I can't satiate all of her sexual desires, simply because I am her husband and I'm safe. She wants danger and excitement.

There you have it. Protect and provide for your loving wife dries up her pussy. She wants edge, excitement, more than a safe dick. It is just simply not good enough that this man does everything she wants. She needs MOAR!

To be fair, so far through this process she has been very gentle with me, trying to support me, and we have had some wonderful sex due to her excitement.

The thought of cucking her husband and having him go along with this, is enough to spur up the bedroom. Just the mere thought of having side dick while her husband is back at home taking care of the family and all her needs. As soon as he accepts this and finds his "own side tail", his bedroom with her will be more dead than the Corpse of Chivalry. And her excuse for stoping the sex train with her husband? "You have sex with other partners too, so don't act like I'm the only one doing this and agreeing to it." While you had that fling that one time, and she is the middle car in a train on thursdays, and getting double stuffed on saturdays.

It must be the way the guy is asking for sympathy in his question and reservations, because the comments are surprisingly apologetic for his cause and not trying to convince him to "go for it, she's still loyal to you" or some other lie women make up to ensure husbands accept cuckery across the board.

sleepyweaselisawake · 2018-06-23T18:50:00+00:00

And, the moment he starts banging hotter, younger women who are much more adventurous and limber than she is.. the relationship is going to slam shut.

LotBuilder · 2018-06-23T18:45:40+00:00

Fast forward post divorce:

My ex hubby just didn’t get me. I gave him everything and even offered to let him see other women but the connection was lost. Then he became very mean and abusive (aka stopped handing her money hand over fist).

TomahawkSuppository · 2018-06-23T18:42:37+00:00

And people are still trying to sell men the lie of marriage lol chivalry is dead, marriage is dead. And I used to be so nice.

BluepillProfessor · 2018-06-23T18:43:40+00:00

Notice the language and what she is doing to him emotionally. He is a wreck so I am sure it is "fair" for her to fuck hordes of men while he chews his fingernails, can't eat, and feels completely alone. Just the perfect combination for attracting girls!!!

Not that the wife planned it that way or anything. It just happened.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-23T19:43:56+00:00

My ex of seven years wanted this and we were supposed to married soon but I left. It was painful as hell but I did it.

no_its_a_subaru · 2018-06-23T19:19:12+00:00

She's gonna be living the perfect empowered female life, she gets to have a worker bee making money for her, and a free babysitter to look after the kids while she gets all the cock and cum she can handle.

BachelorInc · 2018-06-23T19:42:22+00:00

It’s sick how these women make it seem so benign almost lovely with phrases with “opening up our marriage” and “play with others”.

😡

OldFashionMarine · 2018-06-23T18:35:03+00:00

If she wants to find something introduce her to the front door......! Get out cunt, see ya. Also give her the address to the nearest free clinic.

SoulLess-1 · 2018-06-23T20:10:16+00:00

Am I making a huge mistake

Y E S

She is trying to discover herself

Why is it, that so many women seem to need dicks to discover themselves?

because surely stopping this now will breed resentment

Given this post I would assume continuing would too. The difference is for whom it brings resentment.

ace_kantrillo · 2018-06-23T21:36:25+00:00

We all know how this plays out. If he got as much pussy as she got dick, she'd NEVER allow this - she would completely flip her shit.

The modern female is literally unpleasable in every way. You give them the world, and they'll burn it down and demand that you give them more.

CommanderHeMan · 2018-06-23T18:43:05+00:00

Yes, I will open up the relationship so wide that I won’t even come back into it.

where_muh_good_mens · 2018-06-23T19:39:29+00:00

Omg he has the perfect out, record himself telling her no he does not approve, then record evidence of her cheating, easy divorce. But no hes in love, how pathetic

EmuNemo · 2018-06-23T18:44:57+00:00

This man is the best thing that could've fucking happened to her

Angelic2TheCore · 2018-06-23T21:35:24+00:00

he is the total definition of a cuck. not a cuckold fetishist. a fucking cuck. she told him shes doing it. and he knows she will eventually do it even if he begs her not to. and all he can do is blame himself. he already gave up a job, a location, and a hobby he is passionate about for her. i'd file for divorce and go back to surfing.

[deleted] · 2018-06-23T23:41:56+00:00

Dude. Leave her, NOW. If this is tearing you to pieces just thinking about it, it is going to burn you alive when it actually happens. You sound like a caring and loving husband and you deserve better. Just because she's scratching her seven year itch doesn't mean you have to be a party to it, put up with it or let it consume you. Let her slut around--later she is going to regret tearing her family apart. She might sugarcoat it on the outside to family and friends. She might act like it was no big deal. Let her be the one to be consumed with bad feelings later--she deserves to carry them, not you.

MadeInBeirut13 · 2018-06-23T20:25:46+00:00

I feel like people who cannot control their sexual urges (especialy when it can tear apart a family you swore to keep) its the same as a pedophile or rapist. I see people like this the same way I see criminals. With no control over ones self.

trevmon2 · 2018-06-23T20:36:57+00:00

i think what happened here is what usually happens, a guy says yeah let's have an open marriage, he tries hitting on women out there and gets no success, while his wife gets tons of dudes easily. Then it dawns on him what happened.

houseoftolstoy · 2018-06-23T21:25:59+00:00

When you get to the point where you are asking for advice about this sort of thing, it's already too late.

the_unseen_one · 2018-06-23T23:08:47+00:00

Lol, that relationship is dead. It dies the moment she wants to get filled by other men, but still be financially and emotionally supported by you and have a good father for the kids.

MustacheCel · 2018-06-23T23:27:24+00:00

Pretty sure she's already fucking her "suitor". She's just going to chip away at her husband until he gives her his blessing. Whatever happens after that she will be able to portray herself as blameless because "he said he was okay with it". In fact, when the eventual divorce happens this dude will be considered the asshole. Women never accept responsibility.

Redsqa · 2018-06-23T22:34:46+00:00

Here's the master plan. If he has money... Get a hot sugarbaby or even an escort that is in on it. They have to be younger than the wife, and much hotter. Flaunt them to the wife. Pretend everything is going good and you're having the time of your life and having crazy sex. I can guara fucking tee the wife is going to come and beg him to stop this open relationship and go back to the way things were.

Not that it would be in this guy's interest though. He's obviously married to a hypergamic whore, there's no saving her. Even if he stopped her, does he really want to be with a partner who was prepared to do that?

I-am-the-lul · 2018-06-23T23:21:32+00:00

Finding herself = Wanting to find a better monkey branch.

[deleted] · 2018-06-24T19:05:18+00:00

It didn’t happen initially but I did move out and fell for her stupid game of “ it’s not a break up it’s a break will be back together after I work this out”. Me and my blue pill mindset at the time believed this. I basically waited a year for her to do what she said and on the anniversary of the day then I found out she was pushing into an open relationship I told her I can’t do this anymore.

In hindsight I could’ve save myself a lot of heartache and loss of sleep and mental anguish by just walking away and moving forward. I’m not believing the whole bottom of it being a”break”.

That’s stupid concert came from the TV show Friends. Life is not a fucking sitcom.

Never be afraid of walking away from a woman.

AllahHatesFags · 2018-06-26T15:49:19+00:00

I forgot to mention, and it may be important. She recently came off her birth control, and I'm unsure if a surge of hormones might be at play here.

She is openly demanding her husband be a cuck! I think she already had the bull picked out before she brought this to him. He should kick the bitch to the gutter where she belongs.

[deleted] · 2018-06-23T19:59:52+00:00

Ok fine, in this case it does not deserve the pejorative intention on him that’s given usually.

kissxokissxokill · 2018-06-24T02:07:14+00:00

As a 31 year old woman, mother of a almost 5 year old, in a long term relationship; I can't imagine fucking anyone but my fiancée. Even in our worst arguments, I don't want anyone else, and he's said the same to me.

No thank you to that kind of strangeeeeeeee d.

I can't even believe there are women out there that think this shit is even remotely okay. FFS.

[deleted] · 2018-06-24T04:52:40+00:00

You guys reminded me of something. That story I told you about the ex that I was with for seven years wanting an open relationship. Well the guy that she had contacted that she wanted to screw and she did said that him and his wife were in a cycle of revenge sex in there open marriage because apparently he cheated on his wife then she cheated on him to get revenge on that incident and so he felt like it was his position to fuck someone in their bed while she was gone and tell her and essentially they got to the unhealthy fucked up revenge obsessed marriage. This is where it leads if they stay together. An unhappy miserable existence.

PerfectNemesis · 2018-06-24T18:43:09+00:00

The husband is posting regularly on r/cuckhold by now. He finally overcame his jealousy demons and realizes his wife having sex with other men is only physical and at the end of the day she's still with him. /s

cycloneous · 2018-06-24T23:10:59+00:00

Oh boy! Honestly, like /u/Sirkolbath said, you can do what you want, but don't expect myself AND the kids to be here when you get back from whoring around.

Basically in a nutshell, what she is saying is that she has lost all respect for her husband. She is rationalizing it by virtue signaling that he is still number one in her life but if that is the case, why does she need to chase number two. This guy needs to grow a pair and lay down the law and tell her outright, either be my wife, or leave and you can whore around all you want!

I've said it many times, her wanting to do this is because of that modern day feminism that says, you can have sex with other men other then your husband and it is okay! If a man doesn't approve of this kind of whoring around it is because he is not understanding and doesn't appreciate his wife.

[deleted] · 2018-06-23T19:56:24+00:00

The thing was she did this after weight loss surgery, buying a brand new house, and getting a big promotion at work. She finally had the tools to let her inner feminist narcissist out.

She was 5’3” 420 lbs. When she got down to 275 all this started.

She married a moron who has no idea about this because her family and friends covered for her and didn’t warn him. She married a girl who cleans her 3,000 square foot town house, cooks dinner, puts up the Christmas lights, cuts her grass, and this is the craziest..... “he gets me real well, and will bring me a cup of coffee without asking”.

The guys a broke as shit assistant land surveyor who lived on a friends cot in their basement while playing Dungeons and Dragons and Magic Gathering and smoking pot all the time. He’s just thrilled to live in the palace of the red head goddess. He won’t even think to look at who she’s been on Facebook with or what she’s doing on Fetlife (yeah she’s still on it) or other dating sites. Has 100 pct trust.

She’s fucking other men on business travel and when she goes back home to see her family. And he has no clue and is such a shithead he can’t put two and two together and see that those “late night work meetings” don’t involve actual work for her boss.

I used to joke before we moved in that I hope the “queen bee” didn’t kick me out of the hive because she found a new worker. Six months later it basically happened. Except she tried to get me to stay by allowing me to fuck other women.

She just wanted me there because I was paying half the mortgage, all the food costs, and half the utilities.

No. Hell no.

[deleted] · 2018-06-23T20:25:52+00:00

You’re making up definitions or laws/distinctions in language that quite simply don’t exist

johnny_qcb · 2018-06-24T02:47:11+00:00

If this isn't a reminder to never get married, I don't know what is.

[deleted] · 2018-06-24T04:41:19+00:00

It's over. Done. Finito. F U C K E D.

He should prepare divorce papers and go over the prenup (they did sign one, riiiight? XD) before she does it.

Not much else to do here. Proof that even a Good Man Chad is not enough.

oh_no_aliens · 2018-06-24T05:49:34+00:00

Time to divorce the cunt. "Find herself", bitch, you do that shit before you involve the state into your relationship.

If I were him, I would immediately lawyer up and get full custody. The cunt of a wife thinks she can have her cake and eat it too?? Bitch BTFO.

he needs only see into his daughters eyes to get perspective.

Cissnowflake · 2018-06-24T14:38:09+00:00

In any deal where the outcome benefits may be lopsided, make sure you get yours first.

“Sure you can have sex with other men. But it’s one fuck for you for every one fuck for me. And I fuck another woman first.

That is, if he insists on continuing with this insane and self-destructive plan.

Lis456 · 2018-06-25T14:15:11+00:00

Joy... the thrills of getting herpes, antibiotic resistant stds and prolly meeting a psycho that can off your family. Old slag

dustman83 · 2018-06-26T14:28:40+00:00

This is quite the situation.

I can see the allure of swinging, as you can both find a piece. However, doing it exclusively independent of each other is just ending relationship.

See if she's receptive to you both going with another couple. It works for a lot of people.

Otherwise, dump her ass

ContradictFate · 2018-06-27T05:31:08+00:00

The best thing about heartless cunts like this is no matter which way you move, whether it be despondency, anger, acceptance or any other way, none of it matters, she's already long gone. Then it's a psychological mind fuck tornado trying to re-run through the steps where it went wrong and what you could have done differently when there was fuck all you could have done and this would have happened anyways.

When you have some Disney princess bitch here in her near 40's prancing around for fucksticks like the world is still her oyster, what hope do we have for women half her age if we are trying to get into a serious relationship with them? "Finding myself" at 40. YOU ALREADY FOUND YOURSELF, BITCH, THEY'RE FUCKING 3 AND 5. Those kids are the best destination you can hope for and you still aren't satiated, you fuck. Screwing a man's life up is one thing but when you fuck up a child's life, that pisses me right off...

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