TL;DR Can a bottom be too loose for a guy's interest, or is it just paranoia and chin-stroking AltTRPing? Take my survey and be a 15 year old on livejournal again!

Objective: Sexual strategy for bottoms/subs; bottoms/subs knowing what practices/revelations/image works in their best favor in the sexual marketplace.

In this sub (lol pun) we inevitably come into conversation or light disputes about the nature of bottoms or whoever is subservient in a sexual/romantic relationship with another guy, whether it's about femininity turn-offs, sexual strategy, promiscuity etc. If gay tops can follow TRP and be relatively okay, is bottom game much like Red Pill Women, or is it more like TRP with a twist? Are gay bottoms for the most part much like women who want to secure a top in an LTR, or is variation from that pattern large and across the board? How does promiscuity come into play, whether the practice or revelation of it to potential top-partners fucks it all up? In my writings I usually write from what I feel in the moment with a guy or see, but for this post I'm interested in others' perceptions of bottom/submissive behavior, whether you're a top or bottom or neither or trans etc.

Survey below, I really want to hear all of your answers. This is a great opportunity for bottoms/subs to figure out their sexual strategy!

Questions are organized by "for tops" and "for bottoms" but I know some people like myself 'swing both ways' in terms of being dom/sub in a relationship and there is some agreement that we all have the potential for either depending on the other guy. Some questions are also just not applicable if you said yes/no to the previous. So if some questions don't apply to you, feel free to glaze over.

THE HEADIEST SURVEY STARTS HERE (use formatting to denote the question from your answer, or delete my text and answer in a complete sentence YOU GAYS)

Open with: sex/gender, relationship status, age, country if you're cool with it, what your face/body's like (with 1-10 ratings everyone thinks they're a 7/8 so meh but you can do those too), sexual/romantic experience, bottom/top/sub, rich or poor, are you often the initiator in your casual/non-casual relationships texting hotties on grindr or wait for them to come to you? plus any relevant stuff that would be interesting to know.

Optional vent: off the top of your head, your general thoughts on bottoms. If that's too frustratingly vague, what do you feel about the slutty ones? If you're a bottom how do you feel about your slutiness/non-slutiness? (This might answer the whole survey. It won't hurt my feelings if you just post this.)

In general in life are you looking for / interested in finding: LTR or casual sex? or what exactly?

The following 2 questions are turn-offs regarding: meeting at a club/bar

  1. You meet a guy at a club/bar. Do you automatically disqualify him from LTR / taking him seriously beyond a one night stand? Can you think of a time this situation played out?

  2. Hey tops You meet a bottom at a club/bar. Automatic disqualification from LTR / taking him seriously beyond a one night stand? Can you think of a time this situation played out?

Following 2 questions are turn-offs regarding: promiscuity

  1. Hey tops You are in an LTR as a top/dom with a bottom/sub and find out he has a high partner count. He wasn't keeping it a secret; it just hadn't been brought up until now. Does this turn you on/off/neutral? If you're turned off, is it jealousy, or him becoming less sexy in your eyes? If it turns you on or you don't care, why might that be?

  2. Hey tops You're a top dating a bottom. He has a low partner count, or you never asked and assume this. (If you would never assume this, then assume he lied or you are somehow convinced he has a low partner count.) Feel that feel. Ok. Secretly he has a high partner count. Do you think this would inevitably show in his behavior / your relationship? (Not counting inevitability of anecdotes from the past coming up.)

Rest of survey

  1. Hey tops True/false: You only want to date a bottom/sub if he is masculine, that is, if you can't necessarily tell he's gay by his behavior. (Gay club attendance doesn't count as behavior; speech/gestures and maybe clothes do.)

  2. Hey tops True/false: You only want to have sex with a bottom/sub if he is masculine, that is, if you can't necessarily tell he's gay by his behavior. (Gay club attendance doesn't count as behavior; speech/gestures and maybe clothes do.)

  3. Hey tops An attractive bottom has sex with you after some conversation at a bar/club/grindr. He wants a good time and is a good sport and doesn't seem to be clingy or seeking a relationship. Does him having sex with you the same night a) turn you off romantically, b) make you certain you wouldn't date him, c) make you lose respect for him / see less of him as a person? (Not in conversation but privately in your mind.) Mark all that apply, betch.

  4. Hey bottoms do you have dating/relationship-pursuit game? if so what is it? do you have in-a-relationship game? if so what is it? do you have casual sex game? if so what is it? HOW do you feel about hard to get?

  5. Hey tops how do you feel about hard to get, coming from you to a bottom or a bottom to you?

  6. Hey bottoms (guys who get fucked by dicks): are you promiscuous? If so do you think it's due to horniness, or a need for validation/love? Are there tops you have regular sex with (like plates)? Do you call them or do they call you or both? If you're not promiscuous how come and how's that turning out? Do you think a bottom with a low partner count is something to envy / an ideal, or a random decision, or sad self-deprivation? (I'm sure we're all in favor of everyone doing their own thing, but how do they strike you in your gut? Give me a redneck opinion.)

  7. Hey bottoms: are you feminine and if so how much and how does it show? Do you think it affects sex/relationships, either or neither? Do you think it's a statement, who you are, or habit? Are you masculine? Naturally or by practice? If by practice what were your methods? How masculine and how does it show? Do you think it affects sex/relationships, either or neither? Do you think it's a statement, who you are, or habit?

  8. Hey tops (bottom-daters/fuckers): describe an ideal bottom to date. an ideal bottom one night stand. an ideal bottom LTR (same as date? ~only u know~). (this question might answer everything. then you can leave gay sex class early! ohhh yeaaaaah....don't stop)

  9. Hey tops: you find out casually in conversation with a bottom-plate that said bottom who you're casually fucking on Thursdays is also getting fucked by another casual guy on Tuesdays. Insert your feelings: caring, not caring etc. Do you generally make clear you wanna be the only fucker in a bottom's life once you do it regularly? Do you have a system where you fuck a lot of bottoms but make sure none of them cuck you? (Please no keyboard fantasies.) Do you find that bottoms are generally thirsty for LTRs, with you or in general? Feelings on plating: do you only plate bottoms you are sure are sluts, or plate any hottie who will take the offer, but hold guys who refuse to be plated in higher esteem?

  10. Hey tops: What dating/sex advice would you give to bottoms that they don't know but that they would wanna hear? Is 'being seen as a slut' a big no-no for bottoms? If it's a big no-no, is it a no-no IN GENERAL for reputation/status or just if they want an LTR? If a bottom was getting fucked on the regularly by many dicks but kept it quiet, do you think a relationship down the line could work out for said bottom, or that they are emotionally ruined ass-flowers?

  11. Hey gays: did the question that started "hey bottoms" leave a bad taste in your mouth when you read the part about having a lot of sex or plates who are tops, and if so is it because of how you'd feel about sexing/dating such a bottom, or, imagining your status going down as a result of being a promiscuous bottom?

  12. General thoughts on shame of bottoming/subbing, promiscuity aside. "It's 2015!" is an acceptable answer.

  13. We're not talking about tops' promiscuity much in this survey. Does this drive you crazy? Is this unfair or right on? If unfair and we're missing opportunity for discussion, how's that?