Are there FDS rules for OLD? I might have missed them

ASeaOfQuotes · 2021-06-22T05:03:22+00:00

There isn't a step by step guide because every single person, on both sides, is an individual who will come to the table with different expectations, values, and qualities. I recommend starting with the FAQ's from the main subreddit (some of those answers lead to additional posts).

There is also the Security PSA regarding internet usage in general. A post on common LVM tactics which many men employ online. Red flags in f-boys also.

Also this post about the media a man consumes is helpful for gauging them during the getting to know you stage.

In general I would just advise you to be absolutely ruthless. There are like 6-10 men for every woman on a dating app, and you need to preserve your mental and emotional energy. Don't let yourself get hung up on one person. Any sign of negging, disrespect, or disinterest is a drop. True HVM are highly unlikely to be looking for a long term partner on dating apps.

Extreme-Vermicelli · 2021-06-22T04:10:58+00:00

FDS rules on OLD:

Don't

The end

she_is_munchkins · 2021-06-22T09:15:58+00:00

I remember during peak pandemic we had a few members sharing their OD tips. Usually they would vet the guy first by his texts, then within a week he must at least initiate a video chat or face to face meeting (you don't text forever). Personally my aim would be to move things from online to real communication (calls and dates), but he needs to initiate this progression. If not, I delete and move on. I havent done OD in a while but that was my general rule.

Obviously be safe - meet in a public space, tell people where you're going and with who, share his picture and details with your friends/family just in case something happens, etc.

Foomama48 · 2021-06-22T04:24:16+00:00

Yes I know the pitfalls of the apps, like I said I’m on them now to test out things I’m working on in therapy, see how I am with boundaries and triggers. I haven’t dated in the real world in about 20 years, after my divorce I met my ex fairly quickly and easily - both of which were huge red flags but that’s a whole different post. I’m just dipping a toe in the water with no expectations while trying to use FDS as a guide. I’m hoping for practical tips that people use beyond just don’t do it, I’m not hoping to meet anything serious, just trying to practice being part of the dating world again in whatever ways are available at the moment.

heliodrome · 2021-06-23T14:20:12+00:00

When I started following FDS I thought getting off OLD was in the handbook. My advice is get off OLD and keep working on you. You won’t be disappointed. But you will most certainly be disappointed with OLD.

AimiHanibal · 2021-06-22T04:18:40+00:00

As with real life dating, it should be the guy that always initiates. Moving from app to call/text should take couple of days imo (or as long as you’re comfortable with). But yeah, best is to avoid datin apps as most men using them are trash.

Title	Are there FDS rules for OLD? I might have missed them
Author	Foomama48
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Date	June 22, 2021 12:43 AM UTC (1 year ago)
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