My friend just turned 40 and is apparently ageist. He is successful but not very attractive or fit, he is basically a nerd. Over time I am realizing be is very LV. He thinks he can marry any young lady but fails to see they are using him. He does date women in their 30s but only as an exception (if they look really good to him). He would never date a woman on his level regarding looks, age and career. He says his new girl (26!) is quite mature and that I would get along with her great (I am 35F). He also drinks excessively and spends most nights at the bar despite covid. He struggles with anxiety, never listens to our advice about him living a toxic lifestyle.

When I brought up the age gap, he pointed out that I also dated much older men. But I stopped that years ago and now when I look back at the dynamic, those men make me sick.

A while ago we agreed that I would stay at his beach house next month, as be wanted me to teach him how to meditate so he can get his life together. But now he is backtracking and mentioning that his party friends have expressed interest in going. I sense he does not want to combine us, and he would rather party. I am let down but also relieved be because since FDS, I have a hard time listening to him and his silliness.

Any advice on cutting off long term friends once your eyes have been opened by FDS? I am sadly losing so many friends.