Guy I formed a great connection with got out of a relationship 5 months ago where he was heartbroken (we’re both 26). We didn’t meet on a dating app or anything, so the connection was natural which is rare. Anyway, knowing that he wasn’t looking for a relationship I fell for him anyway. I’m still learning how to stop dating emotionally unavailable men, but the problem is I am not emotionally available which is why I go for these types.

I’ve had plenty of options for a relationship but I feel I personally am not ready either after a horrible situation with an ex that ended over a year ago. I thought I wouldn’t catch feelings but I did. And once I did, I had to let him go because it would hurt knowing he’s not ready. When I tried to cut him off he was very apologetic, he wanted to come over and make sure he knows it’s not personal.

That if he met me 2 year ago he would’ve been he’d over heals for me but he did say that he knows he doesn’t want a romantic connection for a very long time. He said after what we had, he’s not going to see anyone else at all and just focus on healing. He clearly still wants me in his life, and said that he hopes in a few months we can still talk. I said no, and I’m letting him go.

Could he be lying about the fact that it’s “not personal”? If you liked someone enough, and you weren’t ready for a relationship would you allow that to happen? He just wanted a friends situation but him saying that we would be together in any other time is throwing me off. I know it doesn’t matter but my deepest fear is not being good enough after how my ex treated me so now my mind is telling me “he didn’t want you cause you’re not good enough”, instead of “it’s not personal”. Thoughts? Had anyone had a similar situation?