How do you make it clear from the start that you only want friendship?

Human_Summer_1709 · 2021-06-22T18:26:56+00:00

I don't think you need to do anything unless and until he makes a move or expresses interest.

Right now, he's behaving in a way becoming of a well-bred gentleman. A high value women will recognize that for what it is, and welcome gentlemanly behavior. As soon as he expresses romantic interest or hits on you, you can either just be honest with him and tell him you value him just as a friend and are not looking for a relationship, or you can laugh off his come-ons.

Twohagsover30 · 2021-06-22T15:52:58+00:00

You don't.

Being platonic friends with men is like walking blindfolded through a minefield.

The risks outweigh the benefits.

Go find his female friends and build platonic relationships with them!

flowerpower102938 · 2021-06-22T16:32:17+00:00

Looks like I need to post this comment I made every other week.....

Here you go-

Comment I made on another post-

DO YOU REALLY HAVE MALE FRIENDS*?

Which one applies to you?

He wants to fuck you✔️

He wants to fuck your friends✔️

He uses you as his FREE therapist✔️

Please note: This can be a combination of all 3 as well😉🤗

*Friends: A guy you talk to often. He shares things, you share things. Communication is as frequent as 2+ times a month.

spiderunderweb · 2021-06-22T21:11:15+00:00

Please don’t, I had male friends for years thinking we were just friends. A lot of them just want to use you or fuck you and your friends. Save yourself the trouble

so_crat_ic · 2021-06-22T19:20:22+00:00

All you have to do is not show him extra attention. Treat him like a brother or relative.

warinmymind94 · 2021-06-22T21:16:31+00:00

It's a very RARE case you can just be platonic friends with a male. The few exceptions are if he is related to you, if he is gay, or maybe he is a family friend or neighbor that ends up coming to your parents events or something like that. You can have coworker "friends" or classmate friends you are amicable or professional with to create a more pleasant classroom or work environment, but generally not too many people are actually close friends with their male coworkers. You can socialize as groups, but usually guys show up at a group thing to pickup chick's and hope to meet women.

You need to come to terms that most guys are looking to shoot their shot with you, use you as a wing woman to get to their crush /use use to triangulate, or want free labor/therapy from you.

You can tell him "I am not interested in ever dating or hooking up with you" blatantly as that, but it doesn't matter. This will get overlooked and he may even take it as a challenge.

My male "friend" pretended to be friends with me for THREE years, and almost instantly when I became single we started hanging out one on one. He knew I didn't ever want to date or hookup with him. I even helped set him up with his crush.... and he tried to RAPE me.

Be careful.

2021-06-22T16:18:39+00:00

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myeggsarebig · 2021-06-23T10:39:05+00:00

You can say all you want to him about not being romantically interested, but as long as you’re giving him attention, he’s going to believe he has a shot. This is the case 99.99% of the time.

Why would you want to subtly tell him? That seems passive aggressively like leaving the door open to a possibility. Again, bc men are going to hold on to that, “well, she wasn’t explicit”

What do you get out of this relationship that you can’t get from a female? It’s masculine sexual attention, platonic or not. That’s what you get. Is that what you want?

Title	How do you make it clear from the start that you only want friendship?
Author	fogplum
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Date	June 22, 2021 3:37 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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