He has presented as decent and wholesome so far. We're both from a conservative culture but raised in America. I get the sense that he is very conscious of how he comes across to me. There have been a few times that he has anticipated my judgment of something and addressed it, even though I didn't say or plan to say anything and I don't believe my face revealed anything - for example, "oh it wasn't that kind of frat". I haven't directly nor indirectly asked about things that are dealbreakers for me like porn, strip clubs, etc. because in my experience once men get comfortable they'll just let it slip in one way or another. I've met men who will talk and talk and talk themselves into a corner, either because they think these things are normal and acceptable or because in trying to clean up his image he reveals something else. But this man doesn't talk too much. I wonder if he will ever reveal anything openly, though it's possible he doesn't have anything like that to reveal. I can't be sure that he would be honest if I were to ask, directly or indirectly. And I am not ok with pretending to be the cool girl to make him feel comfortable revealing his depravity.

What do you ladies think?