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How to completely eradicate people pleasing behaviors?

April 30, 2021

I have been practicing this for nearly 20 years. I’m making some good progress, but has anyone seen the other side of the battle? Have any tips, book, anecdotes to share?

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Title How to completely eradicate people pleasing behaviors?
Author dancedancedance83
Upvotes 18
Comments 1
Date April 30, 2021 4:24 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/askFDS
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[–]pretty_killFDS Specialist 16 points17 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

For me, lately I have been determining if I want to do something when asked. Like whenever someone asks anything of me, I have to think, will this bring me personal pleasure and enhance my life? or is it only for their benefit? If it is only for their benefit, I gauge whether or not they add value to my life in other ways.

I struggle because maybe I have become too harsh to where I am not looking out for friends, but then I filter that by looking into whether or not that friend was a good friend to me and helped me out before.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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