I’m new here and learning, please bear with me. I’m pretty confused on this issue I just came across with my new boyfriend who has been a HVM. I could use some advice as it’s hard for me to talk about this to anyone.
He is incredibly thoughtful, is always giving me gifts every time I see him, talks about far into the future, etc I’ve thought nothing but terrific feelings until he was showing me something on his phone and there was a tiny photo tab on the browser that was naked women in a porn like setting. I thought it was funny and brushed it off until some other things I noticed. I shamefully went through who he is following on IG and noticed he likes photos of mulllltiple scantily clad women. We haven’t gone very far in the sex dept but I noticed that he wasn’t hard when we were doing some foreplay for the first time and he said he was nervous because he finds me really attractive. (Yes, my BS flag was at full mast)
My question is, is this a red flag to you? To me, “liking” a photo like that is basically saying “hi, I exist, if you reach out, that would be super”. I’m confused because I don’t know if I’m being too uptight about this.
I surely don’t feel good about it, but he jumps through hoops to impress me and has been amazing. How do I approach this?
Thank you for listening!
Edit: I just broke up with him. Thank you so much to everyone who gave me advice. I felt so supported by all of you.
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