I don’t know what it is, I’m always considered temporary to most men. It could be that I’m choosing the wrong types, but I wonder if it’s a result of being mixed race in a mostly white city. I have friends who are in committed relationships and the men never change their mind and leave them. I’m attractive, but I think that’s all men seem to see in me. I dress more modest to make sure I’m not giving them any ideas.

That always happens to me, they change their mind. Even when I was in a three year relationship my ex left me for his co-worker. Thankfully he was toxic and I’m glad he’s out of my life, but I dated a guy who I thought I’d be in a relationship with quite recently. There were no red flags. Then, lo and behold he told me he changed his mind while we were on a little getaway together and that he doesn’t see me “long-term”.

How can I stop comparing myself who girls who are in great relationships where the man doesn’t have a second thought about them? I know this because my friends are in these relationships. I’m worried that it’s a result of my race, or the fact that I’m more of an alpha female type, etc. Thinking this way is probably wrong, but I can’t help but feel like I’m flawed because no one sees me long-term. Any advice?