"If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?

2021-03-28T22:37:02+00:00

When someone knows deep down that they’re terrible, but their ego wants them to believe they’re as amazing as they proclaim to be, they aren’t in a place to be able to live authentically or to love anyone. Also they’re so vile that they always think the grass is greener elsewhere.

Don’t be mad the bullet didn’t hit you, sis. 🖤

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2021-03-29T04:08:32+00:00

There’s reasons why he doesn’t want you.

Either he was never into you to begin with, and was faking a relationship or whatever you guys had to gain affection/sex, or something else.

OR

He was into you and you were hard to get, unavailable, and a challenge then changed your behaviors and you became too interested, too available, and you started pursuing/ chasing him, or entertaining low energy behaviors and this let him know he can treat you like garbage and you’d still stick around.

TBH asking yourself why he doesn’t want you is a waste of time. All you can do is react to his actions and ignore his words and adjust accordingly.

Dating isn’t for the faint of heart. You need THICK SKIN, and you have to be cut throat and ruthless. You need to be willing to walk away from ANYONE who switches up on you at ANY MOMENT. Even if he’s the love of your life.

If you’re not prepared to rip off bandages and walk away from bulls hit the FIRST time, you’re not ready to date

_RustInPiece_ · 2021-03-29T12:04:45+00:00

The phrase "If he wanted to, he would" applies to his own behavior, it doesn't talk about your value. You need to differentiate between wanting someone and valueing someone. He indeed wants you to some extend or else he wouldn't stay in your presence. To be wanted by a man isn't a compliment, despite what society is teaching you. He wants you, because your presence adds value to his life, like comfort. He doesn't value you, because he is of LV and therefore doesn't want add value to your life. LVM take without wanting to give back. This is nothing you can (or should bother to) change.

sweet_birthday_babyy · 2021-03-29T01:45:06+00:00

It wasn’t you he wanted. He just wanted to use you for pleasure and feel good for a moment without connecting with you in a real way

Villanelloh · 2021-03-29T10:34:48+00:00

Some men are just scum. There is no reason why they act the way they do, that's just who they are. You haven't done anything wrong. Don't waste your time trying to figure out their twisted logic. They're just bad people who cause misery to you because that's their nature.

Title	"If he wanted to, he would", but why doesn't he want me?
Author	throwaway-rhombus
Upvotes	93
Comments	24
Date	March 28, 2021 7:29 PM UTC (3 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askFDS
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