What the title says. I'm bisexual but (unfortunately) lean towards males. I feel like I'm almost asexual these days because male sexuality has seriously put me off sex, even non hetero sex. What's meant to be a fun, loving and sensual experience has become something akin to a WWE wrestling match. Sex nowadays is all about violence and hatred and we have males and their porn addictions to thank for that. In the last few months of my last relationship I could barely think about having sex with my boyfriend or even any male. While my boyfriend had not done anything wrong how can I know for sure he didn't think about violence like all the other males?
I'm starting to think there is something fundamentally wrong and disgusting about male sexuality. It's like they can't get aroused unless a woman is suffering and I think it's so messed up, like something has gone wrong with human evolution. I know the scrotes will probably screech "not all men" and that I'm demonising male sexuality. But I read somewhere that 80% of porn scenes contain some sort of violence. And they get millions of views. So clearly an extremely large majority of males get off to human suffering which is psychopathy, plain and simple.
Has anyone else experienced this? Is there anything I can even do now that the rose tinted glasses have come off?
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I know how you feel. I’m kind of in the same boat here. I’m bicurious, but I’ve never had anything with a woman. Men have put me off of sex too bcs I’m worried they might be too violent or still secretely getting off to violent porn like most of them do. However, when I masturbate, I imagine having sex with women. I don’t think about men sexually at all, quite frankly, I find their genitals disgusting, yet I’m strongly attracted to them irl. Has anyone ever had similar experience like this? That in my mind I fantasize about women, but I cannot imagine doing that stuff irl. Sometimes I wonder if my brain is somehow friend from watching porn too (I went cold turkey this year after I learnt about all the shit that goes behind the scenes), but I remember not fantasizing about men and finding them rather disgusting when I was a teenager, too. Yet I’ve never had any sexual experience with a woman and can’t imagine doing that. Any advice?
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Thanka for your reply. Lately, I’ve been trying to “re-program” myself, too, but it usually works only towards the climax. How long would you say it took you to change your mind about that completely?
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