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Is it normal for men to frequently compliment other women’s appearance?

April 8, 2021
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I (24) have had 3 relationships so far, and before each one imploded due to an ex’s LV behavior, they each would compliment other women’s appearance and let it be known that they have a physical type that was very different from me. What’s that about? Why do men constantly talk about the attractiveness of other women rather than complimenting the women they are in a relationship with? And why do they insist on bringing up their preferred physical type that the women their dating doesn’t fit? Why does it seem that men are out to always hurt our feelings?

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Title Is it normal for men to frequently compliment other women’s appearance?
Author SignificantCap8064
Upvotes 131
Comments 9
Date April 8, 2021 1:47 PM UTC (1 year ago)
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[–]ASeaOfQuotesFDS Specialist 173 points174 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s a form of negging designed to make the women they date feel inadequate and therefore more prone to staying because their confidence is wrecked.

[–]divination__ 105 points106 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It is negging, it is not normal, it is disrespectful. You are not insecure for not liking it, because I guarantee any man would react significantly worse if you did that to him. It is a massive red flag and not something you should, or have to put up with. Anyone who cares about you and respects you would have the sense to not do something that will obviously make you feel bad about yourself. They're doing it on purpose as a manipulation tactic.

[–]dollymyfolly 68 points69 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Normalized isn’t normal, and it doesn’t have to be for you. You can choose not to accept it from anyone.

[–]Sea_SoilFDS Specialist 67 points68 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No, it's not normal. Its abusive behavior. They know what they are doing.

Usually it's A. You are actually their type, but they think you are out of their league and are insecure so they try to tear down your self esteem so you don't realize you could do better and eventually leave them.

or

B. you aren't their type and they feel entitled to it, or resent YOU for the fact that they can't get with a girl they think is their type (which is their fault not yours), so they abuse you until you change and become their type. My ex did this by triggering me into an eating disorder so I'd lose weight. He constantly talked about how attractive toned women were. (jokes on him because I dumped him and then got super toned. He kept begging for me to come back because I was "perfect now" 🤮).

It's all about control for them. Either way, they hate women. Leave immediately, at the first sign of this behavior.

[–]super_thinker_ 24 points25 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I can confirm that it's a form of abuse. The worst guy I've dated used to send me semi nude photos of his celebrity crushes on days when he knew I had something important going on (an exam, and interview, etc.).

I cried and asked him "Why do you send me these pictures?" and he laughed and said "Because I know you hate it." He then tried to convince me that I was too sensitive and that it was a joke but that was always his cop out.

[–]Repulsive-Ad1092 10 points11 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

It’s abuse. They knew that if you love yourself you end up seeing that they are crap and dump them.

[–]Lavender_flowFDS Specialist 9 points10 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Is it normal for men to frequently compliment other women’s appearance? - NO! HVM do not do this, because they dont view women as objects. If a guy does this, break up with him. As someone said, it is a way to make you feel inadequate so you will stay with them.

Dump dump dump. Do not let any man emotionally manipulate you like that, ever.

[–]Whateverbabe2FDS Specialist 7 points8 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

No.

None of my boyfriends ever did this to me and I dated some lvm in my days.

[–]souredskittlesFDS Specialist 4 points5 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Nope, not cool. Not even my xlvm did this shit.

You can kill a man, but you can't kill an idea.

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