I'm 23 years old and I haven't been in a relationship, but I have dated one guy (which looking back, wasn't particularly good) and I haven't had any luck since then. I live in a city filled with LVM that think it is a womens job to court, go heavy on 50/50 and arent very gentleman like. The dating scene is heavily based on men just messaging women through dating apps or through social media.
I am trying to think why I even want to date, and the conclusion was nothing more than because it is what society pushes towards women. I have more to lose to date than to not date. For example, I don't want to have any kids, I don't care about marriage etc. I have good friendships (emotional comfort), I also have access to a therapist atm (mental support) and also I am doing well financially and I know money isn't or will ever be an issue with me.Then you have the factor in the dating pool for most men, as most men want kids, I only have maybe a pool of 20% of men, or even less. Then it is even smaller, when I consider attractive, high earning men, with great personalities, not misogynist, not porn addicts etc. Not only that, but you have to do with the narcs, the cheaters, abusers that could also potentially happen. Its then.... what am I left with lol? I barely have any options and it is harder to find once I also factor in the bad dating scene.
So what is the point of me trying lol? I don't even try I'm the first place anyway, but I still have that "but I want a relationship" mindset that I have sometimes that I need to get rid off, because I know my "dream man" doesn't exist!
