I had this weird epiphany last night after yet another failed dating prospect a week prior. I’m 26, about to be 27 this spring. I’m not where I want to be in life, I feel stuck and trapped so I’ve been applying for jobs left and right.
I also feel like I need to start anti-aging creams despite having a good skincare routine. I’m an attractive girl in her prime but dating has been a goddamn nightmare, because by the time men my age actually want to settle down, I’ll be old and unattractive. I’m feeling really anxious about life right now. I’m sure I’m not alone, but it’s awful. I’m probably overreacting but I need some peace of mind. Any advice?
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I'm 35 and I absolutely understand what you're feeling, in fact those very feelings fucked me up so bad I dropped out (I transferred to my uni when I was 25, almost everyone else 5 years younger than me, so I felt the pressure of everything tenfold) and struggled for about 3-4 years to get myself back on my feet (had to go to therapy, became a hermit, couldn't function at work, among other things).
Now I'm on the other side of the tunnel, barely graduated last year, and trust me, it's all bullshit that we women have been brainwashed, indoctrinated, pressured and gaslit into believing.
Our "prime" is not our 20s, that's bullshit. Our 20s are for finally becoming adults (there's plenty of data now that proves we stop finally growing at 25, this is why a 19yo is on a totally different stage in life than a 25yo), learning about and finding ourselves, figure out what we want to do. That's what our 20s are for.
Trust me, you'll look fantastic in your 30s, while men your generation, in their 30s, will start to decline, hard. Men in general do whatever the fuck they want, eat however, sleep whenever, they don't mentally grow, don't go to therapy, dress however, no skincare, no working out, no healthy lifestyle. That's all fine and dandy during their 20s, because they have their metabolism and youth hiding and making up for all that crap. Once they hit 30? I've yet to see older men who actually look good and are NOT a rarity. Meanwhile, women who have been taking care of themselves their whole lives (and didn't allow LVM to suck out their life force) look fantastic way into their 50s.
As for the anti-aging creams... don't need them. The best way to protect your skin is to use genuinely good SPF sunblocks regularly. Even if it's cloudy, or you're "inside" your home, use it. On top of whatever skincare routine you have, that's gonna ensure your skin is in tip top shape.
The "women are in their prime during their 20s" is a fucking myth. It's a lie, it's a fucking lie. Go to the main sub and read, read, read, read. The rabbit hole goes deep, and you deserve to give yourself the best life, and that best life doesn't necessarily equate to the "apple pie life" the patriarchy has been spoon feeding us our whole lives.
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