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Men flirting with other women in front of you…

October 2, 2021

So, I’ve just been so demoralized with men recently. I feel like I only seem to encounter those on the narcissism spectrum. After some pretty traumatizing experiences with men over the last month, I decided to keep my interactions with them to a minimum. However, earlier this week a childhood friend moved to town and expressed that he wanted to take me out for drinks and dinner. However, when we arrived to the bar he proceeded to check out all of the women inside including our “very sexy” waitress. He had his eyes on her the whole time and she barely paid me any attention when she’d come to check on our table. I was visibly agitated, but he continued to be flirtatious even having the audacity to to strike up a conversation with the girls at the table next to us. I thought maybe feeling annoyed in this context was maybe a little irrational, as we are not in a relationship, but I just couldn’t help but to feel disrespected, and to make matters worse his ex called him several times during our “date”. I honestly just felt like walking out right then and there but I was drunk and starving and felt that I would be sick if I didn’t get something into my stomach. So I proceeded to go to the restaurant with him. He seemed to be more attentive, but then a guy sitting close to us made a mildly rude comment. At that point anger took over, the rest of conversation was side tracked by his deep desire to fight the guy who made the rude comment. He claimed he didn’t want to look like a pussy. Ugh…to make matters worse he decided to end the date early to talk to his ex who was freaking out over losing her wallet lol so I chewed him out. I mean why be so insistent on taking me out if you aren’t going to remain present and you are going to cause chaos? After I called him out, he simply smirked and said, “did that make you uncomfortable?” What is up with this narcissists reaching out to connect with women when they are clearly emotionally unstable and unavailable? Why do they make such an effort to make you feel disrespected and disposable?

I hate men.

End rant.

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Title Men flirting with other women in front of you…
Author SignificantCap8064
Upvotes 129
Comments 3
Date October 2, 2021 4:52 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit /r/askFDS
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[–]ShieldMaidenLagerthaFDS Specialist 50 points51 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I had a similar experience a few years ago with a narcissistic man who deliberately flirted with a waitress to try to make me jealous. I decided a while back that if anything remotely similar ever happens, I’m going to excuse myself to the bathroom and order a Lyft, wait in the bathroom until the ride arrives, and then just walk past my date and into the Lyft without a word. These scrotes know exactly what they are doing. You’d be better off having your Lyft driver go through a food drive through than breaking bread with that scrote.

[–]dancedancedance83 78 points79 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Most men are narcissistic.

To be frank, most of what was happening in this situation was his stuff. Telling him to knock it off one time and if/when he persists to get up and leave was your option during his antics. I would not personalize what he did because if we take a step back here, he is acting like a thirsty ass teenager with weird anger issues. You have every right to not want that behavior in your presence, friend or not.

Back to my first point: Just because most men are narcissistic doesn’t mean you have to sit there and accept this behavior as an indictment of you. It isn’t. You have autonomy and power to not allow behavior that you deem is disrespectful or demeaning from ANYONE. If someone can’t act with some sense or with respect, time for you to go. When you work towards accepting that, you’ll be able to move with more confidence and assurance of yourself and what you want DESPITE the behavior they or anyone else exhibits.

I understand it is tiring because a lot of men are relentless in their bad behavior and boundary pushing, but we have to be strong enough to speak up and/or leave immediately if they cannot/refuse to get it together.

[–]Competitive_Bar8657 40 points41 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Honestly, I would have excused myself during the waitress incident, send him last message about hoping he could get her number, and block him. The disrespect is extreme and he seems to be too much. He's supposed to court you while you were there not act like a clown.

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