Hello fellow queens,

Everytime I’m upset over my work, life in general, covid, you name it...the way my boyfriend handles it is through kissing me and saying that he loves me and everything will be alright. He also offers some suggestion which usually I have already thought and nothing else.

I’m getting upset over this. Last night my car broke down again and it won’t probably be fixed. And my boyfriend after knowing that I’m pretty sad and angry over it still wants to show up at my parent’s to console me. Which I know is more about him than me. And to tell me that he loves me. Don’t I have the right to be upset and to be alone for one day or two?

And this is a pattern. Telling that you love me and kissing me won’t magically make me happy again. The problem is still there. And I’m one who is going to have to fix it.

Today I told him explicitly not to come over. I’m not sure whether he is upset or not. At this point I don’t care.

What do you all think? This is normal among men right?