I need some advice and insight from FDS on the idea of love bombing.

For me its 100 percent a grooming method where potential abusers use to lure and lock whoever their grooming. That's been my experience with my narc ex and is a 100 percent red flag for me PERIOD. Because of this love bomb phase it basically ruined my mentality thinking I could go back to those "fake" good times. As a result, I will not even think about dating someone who is rushing a relationship, committing quickly, and just putting me on a pedestal when their barely know me. I also read a number of self help books, saw many videos, read many articles, and even from therapy learned that love bombing is indeed a red flag.

However the dilemma I have right now is that I've also heard from people and read a number of articles saying that love bombing is okay and that their in lasting, healthy relationships/marriages.. this is really confusing to me. Yes, to some it might be possible but I think it's super rare for it to manifest into a healthy relationship in general.

Can I hear some experiences/ thoughts from the FDS community on this?