My best friend was absolutely amazing to me. He helped me through a breakup. He always did things that were thoughtful and caring and we had some really good memories together for about a year and a half. But then out of the blue one day he told me he’s interested in me. And I never really saw it that way so I told him it’s not something I’d want but I value our friendship so much and I hope we can go back to what we used to be.

As soon as I said that he changed 180. He started treating me so poorly. Blocking me to teach me lessons, talking about me behind my back and ignoring me regularly. I kept thinking how good he was to me and blamed myself for his behaviour. It was getting bad but then it got worse and he got extremely emotionally abusive to the point of insulting me in words that I can’t repeat here. I have so many memories of me just crying everytime I got a message from him it was that bad. After some time (unfortunately too long) I decided enoufh was enough and I gave up and blocked him. We haven’t spoken since.

I honestly at this point have issues with my trust. Not trust issues per se but more so that I’m scared to open up to someone when I know they could be putting on an act and change all of a sudden. How do I get over this idea that someone can change and treat you like that even though they were perfect at the start