For context, my bf and I (mid-late 20s, dating for a year) have a mutual circle of friends consisting of people who went to high school together (excluding me and another guy's girlfriend).
We've been hanging out as a group for about 6 months, usually going bout to drink or having small house parties and the girl, let's call her Marie, is trying to get close to my bf. Like she would try to talk to him for hours while I hang out with the other girls, she would take party photos only of my bf and even selfies with just the two of them.
Now I know I shouldn't have done this but the other day I went through his laptop to read their messages and while he replies in a very friendly but concise manner, she does most of the talking and initiating conversations. Instead of asking in the group chat, she would only message him directly asking if he's coming. No mention of me. And after the most recent day out she only messaged him how he's feeling and if he got good sleep.
I feel like she's definitely crossing a line here and my female friend agrees, but I'm not sure what's the best way to tackle this.
How do I talk to my boyfriend without sounding like I'm crazy or overly jealous.
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Thank you for your reply. I totally agree with you but also think it's tricky to block her because she's a mutual friend of some people in the group and her and my bf have known each other since high school, even though they never directly interacted back then. Also she would know immediately that I'm the reason behind the block.
I think one of the reasons she likes him is because she's 2 years younger than us and used to adore my bf from afar in high school because he was popular. So it makes her feel better knowing he "approves" of her now.
What do you think is the best way to start the conversation with him?
Tomorrow I'm gonna have dinner with one of the other girls in the group that I'm close with to her her opinion as well. I want to solve this issue by the end of the week ideally.
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