Help me understand here. This guy almost got me fired for bogus reasons. I eventually confronted him and he admitted to trying to get in good with boss and that my boss was texting him daily about me. (my boss supports this toxic behavior against me she's a woman). We talked it out and I let it go. Lately he has been being so nice to me that I let my guard down. He was just nice to me yesterday and is straight out ignoring me today. My gut turned bc he came in when he wasn't on shift and went to management. I work at a gym it's a very easy job and I'm just working there to finish my education since they offer free tuition. I do my job well and am kind to everyone even the people who have done me dirty.

I catch him watching me on a regular basis. I'm so confused why he is targeting me and goes between being overly nice to me and watching me to going to my manager about me and ignoring me in cycles. I am totally a target of abuse and bullying at work. I have been bullied by women before but by a guy?? What?? I can't take any position he has so I'm not sure his obsession with me oscillating between hate and being nice???? I feel like I'm going crazy here. Has anyone else been through this or have insight to what his motives would be since there isn't competition between us? On top of that I'm basically excluded from work and made to feel small and minimized in general by men and women. It's extremely insidious. But what I'm trying to figure out is why do the men do it??? I'm attractive personable intelligent it's so confusing. Why me?