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Thoughts on a man who doesn't text to make sure you made it home?

February 24, 2022

I am in a fairly new relationship. We mostly go out to eat and he picks me up and drops me at home. But the times I've driven to his place for a move night or for him to cook me dinner, he doesn't ask me to text him when I get home or text me to make sure I made it home (so I do not text him). It's a short drive, but it's always late at night. This is something most of my girlfriends do, and something my ex did. He always texts me in the morning. We have not slept together. He has been respectful, kind and attentive so far - remembers details, gives thoughtful gifts, sends favorite foods when I'm sick, etc. and I can tell he puts effort into trying to make me happy (and succeeds). But this little thing bothers me because I think it shows some carelessness when it comes to concern about my safety. What do you ladies think?

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Title Thoughts on a man who doesn't text to make sure you made it home?
Author fogplum
Upvotes 66
Comments 7
Date February 24, 2022 11:38 PM UTC (5 months ago)
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[–]socalqueenofcheese 54 points55 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I do not see this as a problem if, as you stated, it seems he is acting accordingly everywhere else.

He is treating you (hopefully) like a grownup capable of driving home safely. Additionally, I think this can be a demographic thing. Where I used to live/when I was younger. This was standard. Now where I live and I'm older this just doesn't happen. With that said; bad weather or something like that....I could see that being a red flag. I'd say if everything else is lining up; this is minor. Or he could be a selfish asshole. One never really knows. 🤦‍♀️😉

[–]super_thinker_ 29 points30 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

I personally like it when someone asks if I made it home ok or even sends me something related to what we talked about or laughed about that night. Makes me feel like the time we spent together meant something to them. That said, maybe it takes him awhile to build that kind of connection with someone (which is better than a lovebomber who tries to force intimacy too quickly)

I say mark it as an orange flag while you continue the vetting process 👍

[–]fireforestfairy 6 points7 points  (0 children) | Copy Link

Not exactly a red flag. Maybe he feels like asking you at night will annoy you.

[–]Sisi21cent 0 points1 point  (0 children) | Copy Link


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