Hi lovely gals.

I dated someone a while ago that pressured me into oral sex on the second date, I went back to his house to drink after a date knowing it was wrong but it happened, and after I stated I didn’t want to be sexual he pushed it anyway and I ended up yelling at him to stop and crying. He comforted me but then initiated it again and it went further than i would have liked.

We went out once after this because I was in denial and convinced myself that it was consensual, and he kept bringing up the previous date and me getting upset and asking me to tell him why I was so upset and prying basically. I had been assaulted/coerced in the past which is why I was so upset when he pushed my boundaries.

He ended up ghosting me but on the last date we went on he shared that he was supporting his female friend because she confided in him that she had been r*ped on the weekend and he told me not to tell anyone.

This was a while ago now and I am in therapy but it was confusing to me at the time that he seemed concerned about SA against women, in general and in the case of his friend, yet he continued to engage and initiate sexual acts with me when I had said I didn’t want to. Just wondering if anyone has experienced similar or has any insight into why he would do this as it’s baffling to me. Seems so contradictory.

Thanks❤️