I’m still going through the aftermath of our relationship, it was absolutely toxic and I stayed way too long. Something popped into my mind, and I wonder if this was why he was so awful to me.

I remember finding photos of dicks in his phone, he said it was just a joke they had at work by sending dicks to each other . It was weird. Then I also saw that before we met he emailed someone on Craigslist for a gay hookup. But when I asked him about it, he denied it but never got overly angry by me suggesting he is into men.

Anyway, he was bi-polar and severely mentally and emotionally abusive to me, everything I said was stupid, and I always had to walk on eggshells. A few months after we broke up, he got married to a born again Christian and is now one himself. It’s very strange. Has anyone else noticed similar patterns with abusive exes? Maybe suppressing something within themselves they’re ashamed of?