I’ve had guys ask me this question and vise versa, they ALWAYS say they’re “going with the flow” and I absolutely hate that answer. I told a guy that I’m not into the strictly casual dating thing, and he said that I shouldn’t be going into it with expectations, but I personally think you should both be on the same page regarding what you’re looking for, and if it’s not a match, move on instead of wasting eachother time. I’m sick of having my time wasted and these men are always “going with the flow”.

I don’t want to even try with these men, because even the most amazing woman couldn’t convince them to want a relationship, I just don’t see how they could go from going with the flow to wanting to date me seriously.

So, either I explain my sentiment and they stop messaging me, or I get annoyed with their response. For instance, a guy just said “well I’m not, not looking for something, just depends on if we connect.” They just want sex and it’s glaringly obvious. I’m so frustrated at this point, I’m convinced finding true companionship in this generation is impossible. What do you tell these guys when they ask what you’re looking for?