I was just watching a show about a married couple and I realize that in the past when I’ve had conversations with men I’m dating or ex boyfriends, vague answers are always negative and red flags. If they aren’t clear on what they want it’s because they don’t see a future with me and they are using ignorance as an excuse. Maybe worse is that they genuinely are confused and don’t even know who they are or what they want yet.

If I was a serious man, I would plan shit out and know exactly where I stand on things. Not to say I won’t change my mind or be open to negotiation, but to be flapping in the wind not knowing where I’m going or what I want … oof. Man child. Either it’s a man child or it’s a liar trying to manipulate me with vague answers.

Both situations warrant cutting that person off.