What's up with him?

_bethiebabes · 2021-05-12T18:55:53+00:00

I have to disagree with some other comments here: it’s incredibly important that women understand why men do the shitty things they do

why do guys ghost and then pop back up? it’s part of their cycle of abuse: I used to call it ‘build me up and knock me down’ before I learned the terms ‘love-bombing’ and ‘devaluation.’ it’s a shit test; “how much bullshit will she endure just to be near me?” he’s hoping you’ll be so excited that he texted after so long that you’ll throw yourself at him, and if you do then he knows that you don’t have high standards and he’ll try to get away with more and more bullshit every day.

it’s also very likely that he was fucking around with other women during that time. maybe he got bored of them because they fucked too soon, maybe they caught on to his shit and they blocked him, maybe he’s just done love bombing them and it’s time to start the devaluation phase...

edit: “just vaccinated” = “dtf?”

Bellaskywalker1 · 2021-05-12T19:45:59+00:00

I was watching this Steve Harvey show clip, he basically says these guys have several women’s numbers and they send out many texts to see which girl responded.

He compared it to laying out traps like a hunter and coming back hours or days later to see what he caught. They know that the odds are against them so they lay out many traps to see who will text them back.

Sea_Soil · 2021-05-12T18:32:21+00:00

Why do you care? Just walk away. This is so not worth the mental energy lol

level_up_always · 2021-05-12T20:28:27+00:00

because he wants to put his penis inside you, because he wants to keep you as a raincheck/warm lead to put his penis inside you later. men are simple they still want to stick their penis inside you even if they are rude, even if you are rude, even if they hate you and literally want you to die. men are simpleeee

Twohagsover30 · 2021-05-12T17:27:51+00:00

Bubbles. Do not waste your time trying to figure out someone. They could be meth addicts, dropped as children, have multiple personalities- honestly it's anyone's guess. Unless you are going to school to be paid to be a psychiatrist, invest in hobbies other than armchair psychology. You'll likely never know why someone is an asshole. What matter is YOU. Not them.

honumaluhia · 2021-05-13T05:22:24+00:00

Just the fact that he says the word p*ssy and then ARGUES about you being offended is mindblowing. Block and delete this man. No good will come out of any type of relationship with him—friendship included. If you have to argue with someone just so that you feel respected as a human being, that person is a degenerate.

He is not your friend. He does not sound like a good person.

divination__ · 2021-05-12T18:27:28+00:00

Just like Twohagsover30 said, who cares what's going on in his head? This is a rude person who doesn't deserve to breathe the air around you. He is BANKING on you getting wound up, worrying what his opinion of you is, so that you work harder to try and win his approval. Block on all platforms and do not let him ruin your peace again. If he somehow pops up again after being blocked, do not respond and block there, too.

AyemHerself · 2021-05-12T20:32:31+00:00

It doesn't matter what's up with him. He pisses you off, next him.

2021-05-13T01:17:53+00:00

He's not on some online forum dissecting your behaviour.

He doesn't care, never had & never will.

Don't let him in your head rent free.

Block & delete.

ShieldMaidenLagertha · 2021-05-13T14:07:21+00:00

Because he wants your p*ssy.

The bigger question is why haven’t you blocked him yet?

Title	What's up with him?
Author	19Bubbles98
Upvotes	30
Comments	10
Date	May 12, 2021 4:05 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	/r/askFDS
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