After 9 years, my bf broke up with me five mins post couples counseling. The following day he was screwing someone new. This was very out of character for him. I always thought he was a hvm. This is the same man who used to write me poetry. I feel so blindsided. I’m so angry that he’s making more of an effort for this new relationship than he had with me in years. He’s broken my self-esteem with gaslighting and narcissism, and I can’t stop blaming myself for the breakup or questioning why he’d make the effort for her but not me. Why was I not good worth the effort? How did he move on so quickly? I feel like I’ve got whiplash. How do I repair my ego and self-esteem and move on from this? I invested so much into this, and I was so easily replaced.