I was talking to my friend who has similar values to me the other day about how I left my ex for his porn usage and she opened up that she had been having this issue with her boyfriend.

She said that they had discussed it at length a few weeks ago and that he had been really apologetic and took full accountability. She told him that it’s not her job to educate him, expressed her disgust and then left him to it for a while before seeing him again. She said that since then he has given her full access to all of his devices, unfollowed a lot of things on social media, joined the gym, bought books on the subject and has been reading them and has just generally been educating himself on the issue and expressing more and more disgust and apologies as time has gone on. She also said that he has become a lot more loving and attentive in bed since and that he is able to get hard properly whereas before he would lose his erection sometimes mid sex.

She isn’t sure whether she wants to make it work which is her choice absolutely and it got me thinking about whether I would have stayed with my ex had he made all of these efforts (I mean probably not because it was interspersed with a number of other red flags lol)

What do you think about this/what would be an FDS response? I’m partially asking out of curiosity but also so I can be an FDS voice for her to support her with making this decision.