Been a while since the last post. I have been hitting new PRs, finished Superior man and listening to 48 Laws of Power, which is solid given my situation and has been a valuable tool. A lot of the laws are dripping with RP.
Getting to the topic, wife since telling me she wants to separate and my stoic reaction to it (No DEERing, "Take me back", etc") she has been reaching out more and looking for "emotional" talk. I tend to keep it to the 2/3 rules and minimize showing my hand. She started her dream job and is "I'm so happy and I am in a great place", damn solipsism at its finest. I ensure no snarky "Good you have everything going for me that you are kicking me to the curb". I think reality will hit when I get back and I'll drop of her stuff off in a box.
Her father reached out to me to see how I was doing etc. I kept it cordial in talking about his classic mustang build, fishing, etc. I could tell her was trying to avoid talking about the separation but he asked me how I was doing with it. I told him a "I have my plan and will follow through with it". He went on to say he was severely disappointed with his daughter and I could tell he meant it. He talked about how it caught him off guard, and I responded I had an feeling because I saw the red flags but gave her a benefit of doubt. He mentioned her emotions gets the best of her which I responded that she is a woman and he dropped some RP on me.
I told him I appreciated the advice about putting our daughter first and I told him regardless of what happens I'll be his son. He is a great father and a man that I could definitely see us remaining connected. It would be hard to distance myself but I am keeping it cordial.
He did tell me a story of a friend who after 20 years of marriage out of the blue told her husband she wanted a divorce. My FIL stated that the guy was great, had a great job, but she experienced the Eat Pray Love paradigm and just left. It was amicable in the sense she took nothing but FIL was shocked by it. Rollo teaches otherwise.
The issue I have is for the relatives, how do you keep it cordial and friendly while dealing with their daughter who is leaving you? I mean I have nothing against them but how do you go about not ghosting them as they will be in my life due to my daughter?