I’m posting this here because you guys are much more knowledgeable and the stuff I read here resonates with me more than the stuff I read in the main sub.
I am not married. I have been dating a girl for 8 months now and she is a potential LTR and a good match for where my life is headed. I just started reading the sidebar in here so forgive me if I’m not all the way up to date yet. I have read NMMNG. WISNIFG x2. And now on to MMSLP about half way . Along with reading some top post in between in my free time.
Of course things between us are still fresh and awesome. We see each other a lot and she was in a shitty relationship prior for about 6 years.
She fell head over heels for me. I know how to be alpha and put her in her place when I need to. I also know a relationship takes a mix of both alpha and beta traits. She’s a bit insecure so I have been more comforting towards her. I constantly lead and am planning things for us. I’m spontaneous. Random. Etc. and the sex is everywhere under the son and extremely often. Some of the best sex I ever had.
But I really do like this girl. We spend a lot of time together. She wants commitment I have been saying let’s just see where things go until I’m ready. The fact I like her so much has caused me to act more beta. I don’t mean being a push over chump. I mean showing her I do care about her. Showing her she’s safe with me. Complimenting her. She has told me she can’t believe how comfortable she feels around me. That she constantly thinking about me. She always compliments me. Sends me nudes. Does things for me.
The thing is I say nice things back to her too. Like I miss her too and shit. I think I really do love this girl. She says she knows she loves me. The oxytocin is flowing right now and it’s hard to be distant I guess. I have established some boundaries already. And When the time comes I will tell her no. Or put her in her place if need be but nothing bad has happened at all. It’s been all good.
But from what I read this may end up biting me in the ass because I don’t want to float into nice guy territory. The shit I’m doing is because I want to. Not because I’m looking for validation or thinking it will be what she wants to hear. It’s because I want to. But I’m worried about going overboard. I have been trying to follow the golden rule 3/2. She puts out a lot so it causes me to give a lot.
I’m just wondering if all this is going to bite me in the ass potentially. Should I back off a bit?