My wife and I have been together for 7 years (married 6) and honestly, I believe it has been a complete shitshow. Sex has been a rarity for the majority of the time we have been together. She has even gone so far as to tell other people about how she refuses to have sex with me. If I’m lucky, I get sex maybe once or twice a month on average. My wife does not respect me at all. She makes it a point to try and shoot down every decision I make for my family. Like a beta chump, I concede to most things. In the rare instances I ignore her grievances and follow through with my vision, she hates me in the short term and ends up thanking me after seeing the results of my decision.

I have a good paying job that has me in a position of higher management in a company. After getting the job, she has tried to sabotage my reputation in the past solely based on the fact I am in a Leadership position. I know this because she could not deny it when I asked her about it.

We have two children together and things have gotten so bad that my oldest child openly tries to talk rudely to me. When I attempt to correct the behavior, my wife challenges me in front of the children.

I have always been an avid gym goer and with a powerlifting total above 1000 lbs, I would like to think I put up fairly decent numbers for someone of my stature (5’6). My wife keeps telling me how much she doesn’t like me going to the gym and again, like I chump, I have compromised that until recently. She claims she “loves the dad bod.” Something I call bullshit on to this day. I tend to get a lot of attention from women when I’m at 8-9% body fat. Not so much at my current level (13-14%)

I have let myself be isolated from all of the things I love doing the most in order to make her happy but I think all it has done is further destroy what little respect she has/had for me. I just happened to stumble across Red Pill videos on YouTube (Rule Zero, Rational Male, etc.) and have just begun NMMNG and The Rational Male book one. After learning about these Red Pill truths, I find myself in a constant state of anger at what my life has become. I have had an honest discussion stating that I have had enough and do not deserve what she put me through. I threatened to move out and move on if things don’t change and now she’s trying to show me efforts that she’s making to change (finding babysitters so I can plan date night with her, more spontaneous sex, letting me raise my children as a father, etc.)

I own that I am new to this Red pill way of thinking and see that I’m stupid for expecting her to “let me lead.” When I should have either done so from the beginning or kicked her to the curb. I want to learn how to establish frame and take the position on my home that should have had a long time ago. How do I get her into my frame? I’m currently taking the lead without her approval and trying to do my part in accomplishing my vision for my family but I feel she’s giving me less resistance because she knows the possibility of me packing up and leaving is very real now.